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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 228853" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Have you tried duct tape? At least his mouth would be shut and you'Learning Disability (LD) only hear a lot of sounds. Just a thought.</p><p> </p><p>When my daughter goes through that stage (she does in spurts), I just quit hearing her. I absolutely refuse to respond, do what she wants or acknowledge her words in any way. Frustrates her to no end. If I do have to do to talk to her, I say it in a very soft, calm voice. If she fails to do what is asked, I simply turn off whatever she is doing and take the power cord with me. This usually will get her moving within 30 minutes, especially since I'm not responding to her spew of hatred. When I'm lucky enough to get her nice voice, I try to fit in as much conversation as humanly possible and make sure we have some fun time during that period.</p><p> </p><p>I also had some stock responses to some of her comments if I really couldn't ignore it for whatever reason. When I heard "I hate you," I always said, "That's okay, I still love you." When I was called a name, I would try to turn it into something positive, such as, "Thank you, dear. I'm glad you feel I am a Beautiful, Intelligent, Talented, Charming Human," etc.</p><p> </p><p>I wish you luck on this one. I'm really beginning to wonder if it is something that adoptive parents go through more than bio. I know in my adoption groups it was something brought up time and time again, especially with older child adoptions. Some of the theories we tossed about were our kids did it because (1) we felt guilty for what had happened to them and thus somehow allowed it to happen; (2) their anger is so much stronger because of the many fears of abandonment and rejection; and (3) they will test us until the day we die to see when we'll throw them away, too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 228853, member: 3626"] Have you tried duct tape? At least his mouth would be shut and you'Learning Disability (LD) only hear a lot of sounds. Just a thought. When my daughter goes through that stage (she does in spurts), I just quit hearing her. I absolutely refuse to respond, do what she wants or acknowledge her words in any way. Frustrates her to no end. If I do have to do to talk to her, I say it in a very soft, calm voice. If she fails to do what is asked, I simply turn off whatever she is doing and take the power cord with me. This usually will get her moving within 30 minutes, especially since I'm not responding to her spew of hatred. When I'm lucky enough to get her nice voice, I try to fit in as much conversation as humanly possible and make sure we have some fun time during that period. I also had some stock responses to some of her comments if I really couldn't ignore it for whatever reason. When I heard "I hate you," I always said, "That's okay, I still love you." When I was called a name, I would try to turn it into something positive, such as, "Thank you, dear. I'm glad you feel I am a Beautiful, Intelligent, Talented, Charming Human," etc. I wish you luck on this one. I'm really beginning to wonder if it is something that adoptive parents go through more than bio. I know in my adoption groups it was something brought up time and time again, especially with older child adoptions. Some of the theories we tossed about were our kids did it because (1) we felt guilty for what had happened to them and thus somehow allowed it to happen; (2) their anger is so much stronger because of the many fears of abandonment and rejection; and (3) they will test us until the day we die to see when we'll throw them away, too. [/QUOTE]
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