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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 228857" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Has he ever seen an adoption specialist therpist? I really didn't know how important that was until recently, but it is. I think adopted kids, no matter how much we love them, feel an emptiness in their hearts, and we can't fill it. The older they are when they come to us, the more garbage and rejection they have had. This is a special issue that biological parents don't deal with. I highly recommend "The 20 Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Parents Knew" by Sherri Eldridge. And I'd have that issue addressed as well as the disorders because I think that this can keep our adopted kids from moving forward. And most therapists don't "get" it so you need somebody in the adoption community who can help. If we don't give our kids permission to talk openly about how they felt abandoned and incomplete (two words my easy child daughter used when she was crying about it to me) then the kids won't tell us because they love us and don't want to hurt us. But that doesn't mean it isn't there. I was shocked at how much my wonderful twelve year old easy child related to the stuff in the book I just mentioned. She'd never said a word about it to me, but it all came tumbling out when I spoke to her about it in a way that showed her I was open to hearing everything. Good luck <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 228857, member: 1550"] Has he ever seen an adoption specialist therpist? I really didn't know how important that was until recently, but it is. I think adopted kids, no matter how much we love them, feel an emptiness in their hearts, and we can't fill it. The older they are when they come to us, the more garbage and rejection they have had. This is a special issue that biological parents don't deal with. I highly recommend "The 20 Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Parents Knew" by Sherri Eldridge. And I'd have that issue addressed as well as the disorders because I think that this can keep our adopted kids from moving forward. And most therapists don't "get" it so you need somebody in the adoption community who can help. If we don't give our kids permission to talk openly about how they felt abandoned and incomplete (two words my easy child daughter used when she was crying about it to me) then the kids won't tell us because they love us and don't want to hurt us. But that doesn't mean it isn't there. I was shocked at how much my wonderful twelve year old easy child related to the stuff in the book I just mentioned. She'd never said a word about it to me, but it all came tumbling out when I spoke to her about it in a way that showed her I was open to hearing everything. Good luck :) [/QUOTE]
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