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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 175880" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Sharon & Marg- that is great advice!! I will have to re-read it several times and get a plan! A few things I have already been implementing, on a small scale- but I can probably find a way to use those techniques more. Asking him- yes- that is a good reminder to work CPS into this and that has worked well with him so far.</p><p></p><p>The girl- well, he thinks she might not be there next week and that will be his last week there. But, he goes onto another YMCA 2-week camp after that, and then another one after that. The last one is at the Y closest to our house and I'm hoping there will be more kids there that go to his school- maybe even a girl! </p><p></p><p>Janet, I looked at the marine program. I can't remember why I thought that wouldn't work right now, but might work in the future. I think it was because only one of them around us had weekend activities and I was still a little concerned if the PO would approve of that being out of town. Another concern I have over that is that he talks like he might want to go into the military- I don't think he ever can since he already has 2 felonies. I'm afraid for him to get passionate about something that he can never pursue right now. The 4H club is a great idea, too- I have never checked into them but I think I'll do that this weekend. Unfortunatley, he's not into sports at all. He tried baseball and soccer and didn't like them. He spoke a little about football and I really tried to encourage that this year, to no avail. He was on the YMCA swim team once and did excellent, then lost all interest, despite my efforts. He joined scouts in first grade and LOVED it until 6th grade- then he quit that. He is in band- he started last year and is staying in next year. I know that provides a lot of opportunity in high school, but he'll be in eigth grade this year, so it still doesn't offer much as far as outside acitivities.</p><p></p><p>So, I started talking to him today about how bored he gets in the late fall and winter and that he needs to find something appropriate to do at the end of this year. I told him I don't care if it is a club, a sport, or whatever- school sponsored or not as long as it is constructive. Last year, we were still dealing with too much court stuff, but he should be planning ahead and can start looking into things now. Do the 4H kids do much through the winter?</p><p></p><p>Oh- volunteering in a vet related area- our vet was going to let difficult child do that this year, then we found out that he has to be 14 yo (I guess it is a law) so difficult child plans to do that next year. Our vet offers 1 week opportunities to young teens interested in the field. I wish it could last longer than 1 week, but this would be a good way in, then maybe we could find another vet who would allow afternoons all summer or something.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for all the ideas! They are all welcome and if one doesn't work right away, it might work at another point in time!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 175880, member: 3699"] Sharon & Marg- that is great advice!! I will have to re-read it several times and get a plan! A few things I have already been implementing, on a small scale- but I can probably find a way to use those techniques more. Asking him- yes- that is a good reminder to work CPS into this and that has worked well with him so far. The girl- well, he thinks she might not be there next week and that will be his last week there. But, he goes onto another YMCA 2-week camp after that, and then another one after that. The last one is at the Y closest to our house and I'm hoping there will be more kids there that go to his school- maybe even a girl! Janet, I looked at the marine program. I can't remember why I thought that wouldn't work right now, but might work in the future. I think it was because only one of them around us had weekend activities and I was still a little concerned if the PO would approve of that being out of town. Another concern I have over that is that he talks like he might want to go into the military- I don't think he ever can since he already has 2 felonies. I'm afraid for him to get passionate about something that he can never pursue right now. The 4H club is a great idea, too- I have never checked into them but I think I'll do that this weekend. Unfortunatley, he's not into sports at all. He tried baseball and soccer and didn't like them. He spoke a little about football and I really tried to encourage that this year, to no avail. He was on the YMCA swim team once and did excellent, then lost all interest, despite my efforts. He joined scouts in first grade and LOVED it until 6th grade- then he quit that. He is in band- he started last year and is staying in next year. I know that provides a lot of opportunity in high school, but he'll be in eigth grade this year, so it still doesn't offer much as far as outside acitivities. So, I started talking to him today about how bored he gets in the late fall and winter and that he needs to find something appropriate to do at the end of this year. I told him I don't care if it is a club, a sport, or whatever- school sponsored or not as long as it is constructive. Last year, we were still dealing with too much court stuff, but he should be planning ahead and can start looking into things now. Do the 4H kids do much through the winter? Oh- volunteering in a vet related area- our vet was going to let difficult child do that this year, then we found out that he has to be 14 yo (I guess it is a law) so difficult child plans to do that next year. Our vet offers 1 week opportunities to young teens interested in the field. I wish it could last longer than 1 week, but this would be a good way in, then maybe we could find another vet who would allow afternoons all summer or something. Thanks for all the ideas! They are all welcome and if one doesn't work right away, it might work at another point in time! [/QUOTE]
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