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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 176697" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Ladies- these are great! I started making a list of acceptable options (so far it is pretty short) but there are plenty of things you have mentioned that I can add to it. I mean sincerely- these are great ideas- I wouldn't care which one he picked. And- the fact that he is presented with many acceptable choices should help him see that "he hasn't ruined his life" (as I keep having to tell him- he is still young enough to turn this around if he's willing to put forth the effort). I'm thinking a couple of things can be worked in- maybe I can get him the Wii fitness thing for Christmas or b-day (I'll have to check on cost), maybe he picks something for this winter, then explores something else next summer after he has turned 14yo. </p><p></p><p>I'm still trying to put my finger on his embaressment in front of others with some things but not others- I mean, I get the concept as anxiety and depression run in my family. It's just odd to me that difficult child can do some things with other kids and never think twice, but others, he would rather die than do in front of or with anyone. I can't find that "trigger", so to speak. The more I can get him involved with others, though, the better because it does help with socialization and self-esteem, etc. But then, I think there is something to be said for doing one's own thing alone, too. </p><p></p><p>We actually did foster a dog before- we really loved him and difficult child has a connection with animals-especially dogs. I think he would love 4H. He would love that Wii if it were just me and him, too. </p><p></p><p>I know he could do law enforcement or other careers pertaining to the law- I haven't pushed those just yet but have tried to keep encouraging him. Paramedics is a good thought , too. Let's put it this way- I'm still saving for his college and sd is still trying to keep him on college-bound track (believe it or not) but the biggest factor right now is getting difficult child to see that it is possible if he will do his part- instead of him giving up and blowing opportunities.</p><p></p><p>Marg- difficult child would love interviewing and documetning older people's live too- but that is another one that I can't quite get him to try to realize that he would love it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 176697, member: 3699"] Ladies- these are great! I started making a list of acceptable options (so far it is pretty short) but there are plenty of things you have mentioned that I can add to it. I mean sincerely- these are great ideas- I wouldn't care which one he picked. And- the fact that he is presented with many acceptable choices should help him see that "he hasn't ruined his life" (as I keep having to tell him- he is still young enough to turn this around if he's willing to put forth the effort). I'm thinking a couple of things can be worked in- maybe I can get him the Wii fitness thing for Christmas or b-day (I'll have to check on cost), maybe he picks something for this winter, then explores something else next summer after he has turned 14yo. I'm still trying to put my finger on his embaressment in front of others with some things but not others- I mean, I get the concept as anxiety and depression run in my family. It's just odd to me that difficult child can do some things with other kids and never think twice, but others, he would rather die than do in front of or with anyone. I can't find that "trigger", so to speak. The more I can get him involved with others, though, the better because it does help with socialization and self-esteem, etc. But then, I think there is something to be said for doing one's own thing alone, too. We actually did foster a dog before- we really loved him and difficult child has a connection with animals-especially dogs. I think he would love 4H. He would love that Wii if it were just me and him, too. I know he could do law enforcement or other careers pertaining to the law- I haven't pushed those just yet but have tried to keep encouraging him. Paramedics is a good thought , too. Let's put it this way- I'm still saving for his college and sd is still trying to keep him on college-bound track (believe it or not) but the biggest factor right now is getting difficult child to see that it is possible if he will do his part- instead of him giving up and blowing opportunities. Marg- difficult child would love interviewing and documetning older people's live too- but that is another one that I can't quite get him to try to realize that he would love it. [/QUOTE]
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