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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 703324" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Words of disturbed and angry people are worth less than a penny.</p><p></p><p>Actions over many years (not just months) are all that signify true desire to do better. Not that months don't matter...just that, while peace is great and hope feels so terrific, change for life can not manifest over a few months. It leads to our disappointment. Devastation easy. How I wished my difficult son would decide to work hard to change when he was in his 20s and had been asked to leave because I was scared of him. And Princess was scared of him and he was seven years older than her.</p><p></p><p>He never changes. It feels more peaceful now that I accept that this is him. I know it sounds crazy, but it does actually feel better to know that he is this person and won't change. Acceptance. Peace. Understanding that this is in God's hands, if you believe in a higher power (and I strongly do and I feel this also helps me).</p><p></p><p>Of course...my son isn't in jail. But he will never be happy either as he is. And I'm sad about that, but I did all I could when I could. Now I accept that it is 100% on him, as it is on all of our adult children. How we handle it is individual and also 100% up to us! We can chose to suffer. Or not. Totally our decision.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 703324, member: 1550"] Words of disturbed and angry people are worth less than a penny. Actions over many years (not just months) are all that signify true desire to do better. Not that months don't matter...just that, while peace is great and hope feels so terrific, change for life can not manifest over a few months. It leads to our disappointment. Devastation easy. How I wished my difficult son would decide to work hard to change when he was in his 20s and had been asked to leave because I was scared of him. And Princess was scared of him and he was seven years older than her. He never changes. It feels more peaceful now that I accept that this is him. I know it sounds crazy, but it does actually feel better to know that he is this person and won't change. Acceptance. Peace. Understanding that this is in God's hands, if you believe in a higher power (and I strongly do and I feel this also helps me). Of course...my son isn't in jail. But he will never be happy either as he is. And I'm sad about that, but I did all I could when I could. Now I accept that it is 100% on him, as it is on all of our adult children. How we handle it is individual and also 100% up to us! We can chose to suffer. Or not. Totally our decision. [/QUOTE]
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