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<blockquote data-quote="Byrd" data-source="post: 297108" data-attributes="member: 7845"><p>Thank you for your responses. It feels so great to have others to talk with who might just understand a little more than my friends now do.</p><p> </p><p>I wanted to give an example of the daily trouble we have. This morning we were going to go to the free movie at the theater. DS2 was sitting on a chair in the living room making clicking noises with his tongue while my other two were getting ready. DS3* came into the room and started yelling at his brother to stop. DS2 didn't. DS3* made a fist, threatening him. DS2 screamed and kicked him. DS3* started to scream and "growl," then chased his brother down and hit him 4-5 times...all the while I'm trying to stop him.</p><p> </p><p>This happens a lot. But DS2 doesn't have to kick DS3* to get that reaction. DS2 might just be annoying his brother inadvertantly. He might accidentally brush against him. He might be sitting in his spot. He might be eating too loud. He might be breathing...</p><p> </p><p>The thing is, if DS3* feels like something bothered him and he can pin it on someone else, he'll hunt them down and pummel them. This happens on a daily basis. The meltdown stuff usually happens when I try to intervene to the point of forcing him into a timeout or swatting his bottom. If I do that, then he directs his anger at me. He calls me names, he threatens me, he yells, he throws things or knocks things over. </p><p> </p><p>Honestly, and I know it sounds horrible, it's almost easier to just keep his brothers from bugging him and never having to reprimand him. I just find that when I try to impose a consequence, the problem gets bigger. But then again, I don't want him to just get away with it. I feel like we're almost held hostage by his behavior.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Byrd, post: 297108, member: 7845"] Thank you for your responses. It feels so great to have others to talk with who might just understand a little more than my friends now do. I wanted to give an example of the daily trouble we have. This morning we were going to go to the free movie at the theater. DS2 was sitting on a chair in the living room making clicking noises with his tongue while my other two were getting ready. DS3* came into the room and started yelling at his brother to stop. DS2 didn't. DS3* made a fist, threatening him. DS2 screamed and kicked him. DS3* started to scream and "growl," then chased his brother down and hit him 4-5 times...all the while I'm trying to stop him. This happens a lot. But DS2 doesn't have to kick DS3* to get that reaction. DS2 might just be annoying his brother inadvertantly. He might accidentally brush against him. He might be sitting in his spot. He might be eating too loud. He might be breathing... The thing is, if DS3* feels like something bothered him and he can pin it on someone else, he'll hunt them down and pummel them. This happens on a daily basis. The meltdown stuff usually happens when I try to intervene to the point of forcing him into a timeout or swatting his bottom. If I do that, then he directs his anger at me. He calls me names, he threatens me, he yells, he throws things or knocks things over. Honestly, and I know it sounds horrible, it's almost easier to just keep his brothers from bugging him and never having to reprimand him. I just find that when I try to impose a consequence, the problem gets bigger. But then again, I don't want him to just get away with it. I feel like we're almost held hostage by his behavior. [/QUOTE]
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