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<blockquote data-quote="Byrd" data-source="post: 297404" data-attributes="member: 7845"><p>I talked with my parents about it. My step-mom works with children all along the autism spectrum. My dad grew up in the 50s and believes that behavior is learned. Between the two of them, I've looked at a few things with regard to my DS3*.</p><p> </p><p>This behavior always happens when I am present. It has never happened (to my knowledge) when I am not there. It will happen with my husband, but only if I am there too. If it's just husband...no tantrums. This one bothers me the most. I am the common factor. What is it that I have taught him (or not taught him) that makes it ok to do this around me?</p><p> </p><p>DS3* directs his anger at the "perpetrator." He doesn't take it out on passive bystanders. If I intervene, I become a perpetrator and his anger is directed at me.</p><p> </p><p>The tantrums mainly happen at home and are almost always the result of an argument between DS3* and a sibling.</p><p> </p><p>Spanking and time-outs have NEVER worked. Not even as a toddler. DS3* will respond to the threat of a swat from husband, but it's only a deterrent.</p><p> </p><p>DS3* is very capable of behaving kindly and compassionately, but even with consistent rewards for good behavior he can't seem to keep himself from exploding sometimes.</p><p> </p><p>I'm calling a friend today who is a child/adolescent psychiatric to get a referral. The least we will do is evaluate and maybe learn some new techniques (although I feel like I've tried most of them).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Byrd, post: 297404, member: 7845"] I talked with my parents about it. My step-mom works with children all along the autism spectrum. My dad grew up in the 50s and believes that behavior is learned. Between the two of them, I've looked at a few things with regard to my DS3*. This behavior always happens when I am present. It has never happened (to my knowledge) when I am not there. It will happen with my husband, but only if I am there too. If it's just husband...no tantrums. This one bothers me the most. I am the common factor. What is it that I have taught him (or not taught him) that makes it ok to do this around me? DS3* directs his anger at the "perpetrator." He doesn't take it out on passive bystanders. If I intervene, I become a perpetrator and his anger is directed at me. The tantrums mainly happen at home and are almost always the result of an argument between DS3* and a sibling. Spanking and time-outs have NEVER worked. Not even as a toddler. DS3* will respond to the threat of a swat from husband, but it's only a deterrent. DS3* is very capable of behaving kindly and compassionately, but even with consistent rewards for good behavior he can't seem to keep himself from exploding sometimes. I'm calling a friend today who is a child/adolescent psychiatric to get a referral. The least we will do is evaluate and maybe learn some new techniques (although I feel like I've tried most of them). [/QUOTE]
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