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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 298712" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Welcome! It sure seems like you have a challenge. Like the others here, I find ODD to be a string of letters. Means about as much in regards to my kids as it does when it shows up in a bowl of alphabet soup.</p><p></p><p>Each of my kids could at some point be diagnosed with ODD. My oldest, now out of high school and almost 18, has Aspergers. He was the poster child for ODD for a long time. Nothing the docs suggested in the way of behavior mod had any effect. Some worked for a couple of days, others not at all and some made things worse.</p><p></p><p>My daughter had a 4th grade teacher and an 8th grade teacher who SWORE she had ODD. She is as easy child as easy child gets in most regards. What the teachers were having problems with were Absence Seizures. They just look like she is daydreaming or staring off blankly. She can miss up to half of all that is said when the medications are not right. Most of the 4th grade teacher's problem was that she was mean to the girls who were little and cute. EVERY girl in her class for several years was sent to a doctor of some kind for "ODD". Mostly the woman was very very sensitive about her weight and anyone little, cute and not heavy enough to waddle was a problem. I am not exaggerating. This woman became PRINCIPAL and the school had an absolute explosion of girls she insisted be treated for ODD. I am friends with the guidance counsellor at the school and it was horrifying. The woman even insisted that many of the kids be put on medicine when she was teh problem not the kids. The school district had a fit because by telling parents the kids had to have medications or they couldnt' come to school then the school had to pay for the medications and the doctor visits. ALL the medications, not just what was given at school. Multiply that by over 40 girls and well, the school was in danger of going bankrupt.</p><p></p><p>My youngest is very different than the other two. Multiple allergies and severe sensory integration disorder, ODD only fits him if a smell, texture, or sound overwhelms him or something itches. Or he gets hot. He wears a thin down vest in the winter most days. He will wear a hat, but that is all. He wore shorts on Christmas last year. My parents are appalled, but he is comfortable and doesn't complain if he is cold. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, from my kids you can see that ODD is just a range of symptoms that can be caused by most anything.</p><p></p><p>GEt the testing. neuropsychologist are often recommended here. I love the developmental pediatrician we saw. Just remember that if your instincts tell you something is wrong then it is wrong. period. Don't take an expert or doctor's word about something you feel is wrong. YOU are the expert in your child. period.</p><p></p><p>As for only blowing up around you, well, it is a really un-fun way to get a compliment, isn't it? Our kids KNOW that many people don't like them or the way they behave. They blow up and/or act out only with people they fully trust and feel safe with. In your son's case he only feels safe enough to let it all out if you are there. Not even if your husband is there. (It is not uncommon to have this happen or to have it flipflop) It is his way of showing you that he trusts you to help him learn to handle this and still love him. Kinda heartbreaking that our kids only trust us to love them unconditionally, isn't it?</p><p></p><p>I am glad you found us and joined in!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 298712, member: 1233"] Welcome! It sure seems like you have a challenge. Like the others here, I find ODD to be a string of letters. Means about as much in regards to my kids as it does when it shows up in a bowl of alphabet soup. Each of my kids could at some point be diagnosed with ODD. My oldest, now out of high school and almost 18, has Aspergers. He was the poster child for ODD for a long time. Nothing the docs suggested in the way of behavior mod had any effect. Some worked for a couple of days, others not at all and some made things worse. My daughter had a 4th grade teacher and an 8th grade teacher who SWORE she had ODD. She is as easy child as easy child gets in most regards. What the teachers were having problems with were Absence Seizures. They just look like she is daydreaming or staring off blankly. She can miss up to half of all that is said when the medications are not right. Most of the 4th grade teacher's problem was that she was mean to the girls who were little and cute. EVERY girl in her class for several years was sent to a doctor of some kind for "ODD". Mostly the woman was very very sensitive about her weight and anyone little, cute and not heavy enough to waddle was a problem. I am not exaggerating. This woman became PRINCIPAL and the school had an absolute explosion of girls she insisted be treated for ODD. I am friends with the guidance counsellor at the school and it was horrifying. The woman even insisted that many of the kids be put on medicine when she was teh problem not the kids. The school district had a fit because by telling parents the kids had to have medications or they couldnt' come to school then the school had to pay for the medications and the doctor visits. ALL the medications, not just what was given at school. Multiply that by over 40 girls and well, the school was in danger of going bankrupt. My youngest is very different than the other two. Multiple allergies and severe sensory integration disorder, ODD only fits him if a smell, texture, or sound overwhelms him or something itches. Or he gets hot. He wears a thin down vest in the winter most days. He will wear a hat, but that is all. He wore shorts on Christmas last year. My parents are appalled, but he is comfortable and doesn't complain if he is cold. Anyway, from my kids you can see that ODD is just a range of symptoms that can be caused by most anything. GEt the testing. neuropsychologist are often recommended here. I love the developmental pediatrician we saw. Just remember that if your instincts tell you something is wrong then it is wrong. period. Don't take an expert or doctor's word about something you feel is wrong. YOU are the expert in your child. period. As for only blowing up around you, well, it is a really un-fun way to get a compliment, isn't it? Our kids KNOW that many people don't like them or the way they behave. They blow up and/or act out only with people they fully trust and feel safe with. In your son's case he only feels safe enough to let it all out if you are there. Not even if your husband is there. (It is not uncommon to have this happen or to have it flipflop) It is his way of showing you that he trusts you to help him learn to handle this and still love him. Kinda heartbreaking that our kids only trust us to love them unconditionally, isn't it? I am glad you found us and joined in! [/QUOTE]
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