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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 628300" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Stress,</p><p></p><p>I have a little bit of a different slant on this. I think it would be OK to talk to your sister (not email or text), and let her know how hurtful those conversations are, and describe to her how you would like her to support you. I think people don't always know what they do, and I think seeing you face to face and hearing what you have to say could be course correcting in a way that would be good for you and for her going forward. To be generous towards her, she may just be chattering to mitigate her own anxiety about you and your son, and what it is doing to you. SHe may be titillated ( a lot of people are, its kind of like rubber-necking a car accident site...everyone does it even though they know its not right)...and opening it up to the air may help her stop that. YOu mentioned that you have an OK relationship...I'd give it, and her, a chance to grow through this. </p><p></p><p>As everyone else has said, no one knows what it is like to be the parent of kids like this...so how could she know how you feel if you don't tell her?</p><p></p><p>My two cents.</p><p></p><p>And PS, my stomach also hurt as I was reading your post, because I know that feeling so well.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 628300, member: 17269"] Stress, I have a little bit of a different slant on this. I think it would be OK to talk to your sister (not email or text), and let her know how hurtful those conversations are, and describe to her how you would like her to support you. I think people don't always know what they do, and I think seeing you face to face and hearing what you have to say could be course correcting in a way that would be good for you and for her going forward. To be generous towards her, she may just be chattering to mitigate her own anxiety about you and your son, and what it is doing to you. SHe may be titillated ( a lot of people are, its kind of like rubber-necking a car accident site...everyone does it even though they know its not right)...and opening it up to the air may help her stop that. YOu mentioned that you have an OK relationship...I'd give it, and her, a chance to grow through this. As everyone else has said, no one knows what it is like to be the parent of kids like this...so how could she know how you feel if you don't tell her? My two cents. And PS, my stomach also hurt as I was reading your post, because I know that feeling so well. Echo [/QUOTE]
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