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<blockquote data-quote="BloodiedButUnbowed" data-source="post: 738044" data-attributes="member: 13303"><p>Truer words never spoken BB.</p><p></p><p>We are not sobbing and rending our garments over here either. Life IS moving on and life is better without them. Easy for me to say because they are not mine.</p><p></p><p>As for me as stepparent, I am disgusted and ready to wash my hands of both of these brats - because that is what they are - forever. You are SO right, and this is something I think my W is slowly beginning to accept - that despite whatever other influences are in their lives, mental illness, drug abuse, parental alienation, etc. - this is a conscious choice being made by these boys. They are CHOOSING to hurt us, they are CHOOSING to abandon us.</p><p></p><p>I struggle with codependency so even though these words likely sound harsh and dripping with finality, the truth is this: I am letting my wife deal with her children however she sees fit. If there comes a time when I need to set boundaries around her children for my own safety/welfare I will do so. But I no longer consider myself involved, emotionally or in any kind of parental role, with DS and YS.</p><p></p><p>I am a support for W, nothing more.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BloodiedButUnbowed, post: 738044, member: 13303"] Truer words never spoken BB. We are not sobbing and rending our garments over here either. Life IS moving on and life is better without them. Easy for me to say because they are not mine. As for me as stepparent, I am disgusted and ready to wash my hands of both of these brats - because that is what they are - forever. You are SO right, and this is something I think my W is slowly beginning to accept - that despite whatever other influences are in their lives, mental illness, drug abuse, parental alienation, etc. - this is a conscious choice being made by these boys. They are CHOOSING to hurt us, they are CHOOSING to abandon us. I struggle with codependency so even though these words likely sound harsh and dripping with finality, the truth is this: I am letting my wife deal with her children however she sees fit. If there comes a time when I need to set boundaries around her children for my own safety/welfare I will do so. But I no longer consider myself involved, emotionally or in any kind of parental role, with DS and YS. I am a support for W, nothing more. [/QUOTE]
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