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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 545663" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>The list sounds reasonable to me. Sometimes, I think, the goals of probation miss the mark for individual difficult child's. I have known parents who were allowed input to include every possible chore, behavior, responsibility they could dream of for a easy child. Although it makes sense to use the Family as a brainstorming group (no doubt this is a lifesaving family) I think each parent has to analyze what <strong>has to</strong> be included for safety and survival, but also what additional guidelines are realistically possible for their specific difficult child. </p><p></p><p>Hmmm....I seem a bit rambling this morning. What I'm trying to say is that most difficult child's know they are difficult child's even if they act like they believe they are awesome. Being "in the system" reenforces that they are not good. SO, lol, my opinion is that Probation rules should stress avoidance of unlawful behaviors and then include only rules that have to be there for the sake of family survival. If too many "chores" are listed the chances of failure increases <strong>and</strong> your difficult child could go to jail for not emptying the dishwasher or forgetting to take out the trash. Sounds silly but I am serious. The PO evaluation "has difficult child met this goal" isn't weighed it is yes or not. So if a difficult child snorts coke or doesn't clean his room...they are both violations that could bring on the cuffs. Most of us know that "baby steps" are to be valued so think carefully about your input. Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 545663, member: 35"] The list sounds reasonable to me. Sometimes, I think, the goals of probation miss the mark for individual difficult child's. I have known parents who were allowed input to include every possible chore, behavior, responsibility they could dream of for a easy child. Although it makes sense to use the Family as a brainstorming group (no doubt this is a lifesaving family) I think each parent has to analyze what [B]has to[/B] be included for safety and survival, but also what additional guidelines are realistically possible for their specific difficult child. Hmmm....I seem a bit rambling this morning. What I'm trying to say is that most difficult child's know they are difficult child's even if they act like they believe they are awesome. Being "in the system" reenforces that they are not good. SO, lol, my opinion is that Probation rules should stress avoidance of unlawful behaviors and then include only rules that have to be there for the sake of family survival. If too many "chores" are listed the chances of failure increases [B]and[/B] your difficult child could go to jail for not emptying the dishwasher or forgetting to take out the trash. Sounds silly but I am serious. The PO evaluation "has difficult child met this goal" isn't weighed it is yes or not. So if a difficult child snorts coke or doesn't clean his room...they are both violations that could bring on the cuffs. Most of us know that "baby steps" are to be valued so think carefully about your input. Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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