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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 414412" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Jena, lol, my computer shut down just in time to save you from a long response. Now I have to get ready for work so this try will be much briefer. Fate is on your side this morning.</p><p> </p><p>In a nutshell I don't think you need to slam shut all the doors. She has been desperate for friends according to your prior posts and she has been rejected by some who found her arrest unacceptable. Seems like she has found a party group that is accepting of her when she will party hearty. Due to her age, her immaturity, the daily stress at home etc. I don't find that too surprising. in my humble opinion repercussions with-o an end date often result in a "why try" attitude.</p><p> </p><p>So, I think you should not mention or think about a graduation party. Chances are it would not be what you envision and it is costly. If she graduates your family can celebrate with a brunch or dinner out. Something that is shared with family only. the purchase of a car makes no sense. Even if you were wealthy...it makes no sense.</p><p> </p><p>Obviously the phone restriction makes sense but I think it needs an end date if she follows the family rules. Make sure you and husband know what the rules are jointly. Same with the laptop. If she needs computer access for homeowork she can either use your computer or use her laptop with a parent in the room at designated times for academics only. Once again I suggest an end date. Very obviously the use of the car is a valid issue.</p><p> </p><p>Remember she is a teen. Her Mom is not and can not be her best friend. A parent is someone who loves you, guides you with-o too much talk and provides a safe peaceful environment. She is trying to find herself. It can go either way at this point. She may end up being someone you don't like very much or she may end up being an independent young woman that you are proud of....but the choice is basically hers. Good luck. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 414412, member: 35"] Jena, lol, my computer shut down just in time to save you from a long response. Now I have to get ready for work so this try will be much briefer. Fate is on your side this morning. In a nutshell I don't think you need to slam shut all the doors. She has been desperate for friends according to your prior posts and she has been rejected by some who found her arrest unacceptable. Seems like she has found a party group that is accepting of her when she will party hearty. Due to her age, her immaturity, the daily stress at home etc. I don't find that too surprising. in my humble opinion repercussions with-o an end date often result in a "why try" attitude. So, I think you should not mention or think about a graduation party. Chances are it would not be what you envision and it is costly. If she graduates your family can celebrate with a brunch or dinner out. Something that is shared with family only. the purchase of a car makes no sense. Even if you were wealthy...it makes no sense. Obviously the phone restriction makes sense but I think it needs an end date if she follows the family rules. Make sure you and husband know what the rules are jointly. Same with the laptop. If she needs computer access for homeowork she can either use your computer or use her laptop with a parent in the room at designated times for academics only. Once again I suggest an end date. Very obviously the use of the car is a valid issue. Remember she is a teen. Her Mom is not and can not be her best friend. A parent is someone who loves you, guides you with-o too much talk and provides a safe peaceful environment. She is trying to find herself. It can go either way at this point. She may end up being someone you don't like very much or she may end up being an independent young woman that you are proud of....but the choice is basically hers. Good luck. DDD [/QUOTE]
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