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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 414574"><p>If she comes to get her stuff, let her take her necessities and let her go. If and when she gets in touch and wants to come back, or if she just comes home, write up some kind of list of conditions for her to continue living at home. The big advantage of turning 18 for you is that you are no longer legally required to be responsible for her. So write up the conditions and if she refuses to follow them, then tell her calmly but clearly she cannot live there, she will have to leave. It is really hard to do this but sometimes it is what needs to be done. i would however do what you can to keep the door open. Certainly hang up on her if she is calling and raging at you and calling you names. No need to put up with that. But respond to reasonable texts, text her now and then, let her know you love her etc. That can really help down the road when she is ready to get help. I am very thankful with my son that I got this advice when we kicked our son out. My inclination was to just sort of cut him off and wait until he came to us.... my therapist pointed out to me that we kicked him out he would do anything he could not to come to us as a matter of pure pride. Her advice was for us to text him (not to come home, we had tresspassed him) but to let him know we cared. In the long run I think that made a huge difference and so when in trouble he did call us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 414574"] If she comes to get her stuff, let her take her necessities and let her go. If and when she gets in touch and wants to come back, or if she just comes home, write up some kind of list of conditions for her to continue living at home. The big advantage of turning 18 for you is that you are no longer legally required to be responsible for her. So write up the conditions and if she refuses to follow them, then tell her calmly but clearly she cannot live there, she will have to leave. It is really hard to do this but sometimes it is what needs to be done. i would however do what you can to keep the door open. Certainly hang up on her if she is calling and raging at you and calling you names. No need to put up with that. But respond to reasonable texts, text her now and then, let her know you love her etc. That can really help down the road when she is ready to get help. I am very thankful with my son that I got this advice when we kicked our son out. My inclination was to just sort of cut him off and wait until he came to us.... my therapist pointed out to me that we kicked him out he would do anything he could not to come to us as a matter of pure pride. Her advice was for us to text him (not to come home, we had tresspassed him) but to let him know we cared. In the long run I think that made a huge difference and so when in trouble he did call us. [/QUOTE]
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