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<blockquote data-quote="VLong" data-source="post: 111237" data-attributes="member: 3458"><p>JMS,</p><p>I just wanted you to know that I am sending lots of hugs and prayers for you and your family. I don't really have any suggestions. It is so hard, I know because I have been there with my oldest. At 18 I told him he could no longer live at my home. Luckily (believe it or not) his father lives in CO and couldn't help him out, so for a year he was homeless and into a lot of drugs and alcohol. To make a long story short, when he proved to husband and I that he would respect us, our home and our rules he was allowed to move back home. He told me that it was the best thing I could have ever done by making him leave, I made him grow up...his words. He is now waiting for the birth of his daughter any day now and is a wonderful young man. He may never be the man I wanted him to be, but he is back to the respectful, loving and funny person I love with all my heart.</p><p></p><p>So, they can change, but only when they HAVE to or they are ready to. Sounds like you and your ex may be helping him too much. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do to throw my own child out of my home, but the outcome is just what I had hoped for. I'm sure others will be along with more advice. I just wanted you to know that I understand and care.</p><p></p><p>Vicki</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="VLong, post: 111237, member: 3458"] JMS, I just wanted you to know that I am sending lots of hugs and prayers for you and your family. I don't really have any suggestions. It is so hard, I know because I have been there with my oldest. At 18 I told him he could no longer live at my home. Luckily (believe it or not) his father lives in CO and couldn't help him out, so for a year he was homeless and into a lot of drugs and alcohol. To make a long story short, when he proved to husband and I that he would respect us, our home and our rules he was allowed to move back home. He told me that it was the best thing I could have ever done by making him leave, I made him grow up...his words. He is now waiting for the birth of his daughter any day now and is a wonderful young man. He may never be the man I wanted him to be, but he is back to the respectful, loving and funny person I love with all my heart. So, they can change, but only when they HAVE to or they are ready to. Sounds like you and your ex may be helping him too much. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do to throw my own child out of my home, but the outcome is just what I had hoped for. I'm sure others will be along with more advice. I just wanted you to know that I understand and care. Vicki [/QUOTE]
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