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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 111621" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Bottom line is, at his age ONLY HE CAN DECIDE TO QUIT. Even if you coerce him into a rehab it will be meaningless if his heart isn't in it. They can't force him to quit either. My daughter quit when she saw her friends arms full of needle marks and she had a sudden lightbulb moment, "That could be me." There was no rehab, no therapy--not saying people don't need it, but she just quit. She is really doing well. </p><p>Another thing: NEVER BELIEVE "It's just pot, Mom." That's what we and many other parents of drug abusers thought. It is usually more than pot if they are way out of control and in trouble with the law. Not saying pot is good, but it makes you mostly spaced out, not violent and lawbreaking. My daughter tells me now, after it's over, that she snorted stimulants often with cocaine, used ecstascy, tried heroine, and abused MANY over-the-counter drugs--all the time we just thought it was pot. She also tells me she drank up a storm, something we didn't know either. Were we dumb? YES! We are very straight. Also, daugther did most of this at night, while we were sleeping, and was not high or drunk when we were awake, at least not in the house. And we didn't even take that leap and think "It could be heronie." I mean, who thinks their kid shoots heroine? I'm only glad she didn't continue and didn't get addicted to it. However, she insists she was addicted to ADHD stimulants, which were easy to get. Her friends and herself would crush them in pillcrushes and snort them (I know, ICK) alone and with other drugs. Her friends would FAKE ADHD to get the drugs or steal them from younger sibs or if necessary buy them off the street. Finally, we gave her a big ultamatum: Go to rehab and DO THE PROGRAM or leave. SHe left, cursing us about how she'll hate us forever. Uh, right. She got straight. It takes Tough Love. Drug addicts thrive in their self-destruction when we enable them. It's the worst thing we can do to those we love who suffer from drug addiction. It just makes it easy for them to use. We want to make them hit rock bottom so they can decide to change. I cried my eyes out after she left, but it was worth it. I wish you luck. This is VERY difficult, but in my opinion you have to let go a nd realize you can NOT do anything to change him right now. Not one thing. HE has to decide to do it. And I would let him sit in jail next time. His lawyer can be the one the court appoints. He needs to be shocked straight. JMO from experience.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 111621, member: 1550"] Bottom line is, at his age ONLY HE CAN DECIDE TO QUIT. Even if you coerce him into a rehab it will be meaningless if his heart isn't in it. They can't force him to quit either. My daughter quit when she saw her friends arms full of needle marks and she had a sudden lightbulb moment, "That could be me." There was no rehab, no therapy--not saying people don't need it, but she just quit. She is really doing well. Another thing: NEVER BELIEVE "It's just pot, Mom." That's what we and many other parents of drug abusers thought. It is usually more than pot if they are way out of control and in trouble with the law. Not saying pot is good, but it makes you mostly spaced out, not violent and lawbreaking. My daughter tells me now, after it's over, that she snorted stimulants often with cocaine, used ecstascy, tried heroine, and abused MANY over-the-counter drugs--all the time we just thought it was pot. She also tells me she drank up a storm, something we didn't know either. Were we dumb? YES! We are very straight. Also, daugther did most of this at night, while we were sleeping, and was not high or drunk when we were awake, at least not in the house. And we didn't even take that leap and think "It could be heronie." I mean, who thinks their kid shoots heroine? I'm only glad she didn't continue and didn't get addicted to it. However, she insists she was addicted to ADHD stimulants, which were easy to get. Her friends and herself would crush them in pillcrushes and snort them (I know, ICK) alone and with other drugs. Her friends would FAKE ADHD to get the drugs or steal them from younger sibs or if necessary buy them off the street. Finally, we gave her a big ultamatum: Go to rehab and DO THE PROGRAM or leave. SHe left, cursing us about how she'll hate us forever. Uh, right. She got straight. It takes Tough Love. Drug addicts thrive in their self-destruction when we enable them. It's the worst thing we can do to those we love who suffer from drug addiction. It just makes it easy for them to use. We want to make them hit rock bottom so they can decide to change. I cried my eyes out after she left, but it was worth it. I wish you luck. This is VERY difficult, but in my opinion you have to let go a nd realize you can NOT do anything to change him right now. Not one thing. HE has to decide to do it. And I would let him sit in jail next time. His lawyer can be the one the court appoints. He needs to be shocked straight. JMO from experience. [/QUOTE]
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