Hey MidwestMom, thanks for your reply!
1) He hasn't been diagnosed by a neuropsychologist, though we are looking into it. It's tough, because sometimes his behavior seems so "normal", and then we feel like we might be overreacting. His counselor believes that we are looking at standard ADHD. He was diagnosed a little over a year ago.
2) I don't know about Asperger's. He tends to make friends/acquaintences well at a surface level, but they tend to drop off after about a month. He has a long-time best friend who lives an hour away. I've noticed he can be very charming when he wants to be. However, I've also noticed that he complains a lot about other children, and fails to see his role in conflicts with them. His bio-mom did do some meth while she was pregnant.
3) I'm not sure if he does better in a smaller environment. We had him switched to smaller classes at school (part of his IEP), but I'm not sure whether or not those are helping him. I'm still waiting for the replies back from thsoe teachers. I don't think he's just being "bad". I sincerely think there's a very good kid in there. I think he very much wants to please, but he gets into these moods where he just will not comply, even at his own expense. It's tough to judge what's triggering him. I don't get a sense of anxiety from him. I definitely think he has a lot of anger, and a lot of difficulty controlling his impulses.
I'll bring up the neuropsychologist with my husband. We're feeling sort of lost right now, and searching for a direction. Thanks for your advice, MidwestMom!
