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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 639665" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Took my son to lunch today. He had texted that he wanted to see if he could hang out with us a watch a TV show marathon. Jabber is out of town deer hunting and I had too much to do to deal with that, but I countered with taking him to lunch and shopping for some thermal underwear. He's applied for a job as a Salvation Army bell ringer and thinks he'll be starting this week. I actually haven't seen many ringers...so maybe they do need some...and get this, they pay NINE dollars an hour! Obviously extremely seasonal, but whatever, it's work. </p><p></p><p>It was actually a pretty decent visit. During lunch he did a lot of complaining about J-1 and how he just can't hardly take him. Said the only reason he doesn't leave the shelter and sleep on the streets to get away from him is the cold. (And he's got some weird idea that it's illegal to sleep on the streets in Missouri. I have researched my butt off and have not found any state laws on vagrancy...they were repealed in like the 1930's...and no city ordinances.) I suggested he go to the monitors there...but he says the minute they say anything to him, J-1 will know it came from him. Same with standing up to him and telling him he can't use his phone and stuff. He says J-1 would have one of two reactions. #1, he'd just say fine, eff you then, never speak to me again. #2, he'd do whatever he could to get my son kicked out, up to and including planting something on him. I guess if he gets tired enough he'll go to them and tell them that he's not going to let J-1 use his stuff anymore and that he expects trouble. We'll see. But, other than a lot of complaining about the shelter and J-2, lunch was uneventful.</p><p></p><p>He surprised me by getting in the car carrying a huge library book! He checked it out yesterday and was almost finished! This kid would hardly read a book on a bet. Just getting him to do it for homework in high school was like pulling teeth. He said the one he was reading was the first part of a trilogy, but there had been a trilogy before it the library didn't have. I was so pleased I took him to Barnes and Noble and got him a book that was the entire trilogy put together. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> </p><p></p><p>Then we did Wal-Mart and got him his undies and some thermal socks and such. He said the shelter is getting him a winter coat...he had one last year, but like his snow boots and pretty much ever other thing we sent him to college with, it disappeared. Then I took him back to the shelter. On the way, we talked bout the "Christmas cease-fire" and how we're going to apply that to our holidays. I told him if he has to work on the day of the family Thanksgiving, I'd make dinner and he could come here on actual Thanksgiving day. (If he's bell-ringing, he'll probably be working, since that's the busiest shopping weekend of the year.) He said he'd like that and would probably work out better. He sat and we chatted for a bit in the car. It became clear that he didn't want to get out...we stopped talking and he just sat there. I really did have to go, so I finally said, "Please don't make this hard." He said, "Just let me stay until you're done with your cigarette." (I'm smoking way too much these days.) But when I was done he got his bag and got out and I went to work. </p><p></p><p>Of course, I bought his shirts a size too small so I have to return them...<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite11" alt=":rolleyes:" title="Roll Eyes :rolleyes:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":rolleyes:" />...so I guess I'll see him tomorrow too. smh. He wanted shower shoes too and there aren't any to be found in the stores in November, so I'll take him an old pair from here. </p><p></p><p>I feel kind of weird right now. I managed to spend a bit of time with him and not cry. His complains notwithstanding of everything from bad food to bad TV to possible bed-bugs, it was a decent visit. I miss him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 639665, member: 17309"] Took my son to lunch today. He had texted that he wanted to see if he could hang out with us a watch a TV show marathon. Jabber is out of town deer hunting and I had too much to do to deal with that, but I countered with taking him to lunch and shopping for some thermal underwear. He's applied for a job as a Salvation Army bell ringer and thinks he'll be starting this week. I actually haven't seen many ringers...so maybe they do need some...and get this, they pay NINE dollars an hour! Obviously extremely seasonal, but whatever, it's work. It was actually a pretty decent visit. During lunch he did a lot of complaining about J-1 and how he just can't hardly take him. Said the only reason he doesn't leave the shelter and sleep on the streets to get away from him is the cold. (And he's got some weird idea that it's illegal to sleep on the streets in Missouri. I have researched my butt off and have not found any state laws on vagrancy...they were repealed in like the 1930's...and no city ordinances.) I suggested he go to the monitors there...but he says the minute they say anything to him, J-1 will know it came from him. Same with standing up to him and telling him he can't use his phone and stuff. He says J-1 would have one of two reactions. #1, he'd just say fine, eff you then, never speak to me again. #2, he'd do whatever he could to get my son kicked out, up to and including planting something on him. I guess if he gets tired enough he'll go to them and tell them that he's not going to let J-1 use his stuff anymore and that he expects trouble. We'll see. But, other than a lot of complaining about the shelter and J-2, lunch was uneventful. He surprised me by getting in the car carrying a huge library book! He checked it out yesterday and was almost finished! This kid would hardly read a book on a bet. Just getting him to do it for homework in high school was like pulling teeth. He said the one he was reading was the first part of a trilogy, but there had been a trilogy before it the library didn't have. I was so pleased I took him to Barnes and Noble and got him a book that was the entire trilogy put together. :) Then we did Wal-Mart and got him his undies and some thermal socks and such. He said the shelter is getting him a winter coat...he had one last year, but like his snow boots and pretty much ever other thing we sent him to college with, it disappeared. Then I took him back to the shelter. On the way, we talked bout the "Christmas cease-fire" and how we're going to apply that to our holidays. I told him if he has to work on the day of the family Thanksgiving, I'd make dinner and he could come here on actual Thanksgiving day. (If he's bell-ringing, he'll probably be working, since that's the busiest shopping weekend of the year.) He said he'd like that and would probably work out better. He sat and we chatted for a bit in the car. It became clear that he didn't want to get out...we stopped talking and he just sat there. I really did have to go, so I finally said, "Please don't make this hard." He said, "Just let me stay until you're done with your cigarette." (I'm smoking way too much these days.) But when I was done he got his bag and got out and I went to work. Of course, I bought his shirts a size too small so I have to return them...:rolleyes:...so I guess I'll see him tomorrow too. smh. He wanted shower shoes too and there aren't any to be found in the stores in November, so I'll take him an old pair from here. I feel kind of weird right now. I managed to spend a bit of time with him and not cry. His complains notwithstanding of everything from bad food to bad TV to possible bed-bugs, it was a decent visit. I miss him. [/QUOTE]
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