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<blockquote data-quote="Kjs" data-source="post: 237534"><p>I am seeing a counselor too. therapist's wife. I see her every week. difficult child see's therapist every week and husband and I are suppose to go every week. However-there are not any openings for them for two weeks.</p><p> </p><p>This therapist is really good. If he were to come right out and challenge husband, I don't think he would come back. I don't know if therapist will do that. Atleast not yet.</p><p> </p><p>husband always told me whatever happened before I met him was none of my business. Most of what I learned, was from his brother. They haven't seen each other in 42 years, and his brother has no address or phone number, but calls about 2 or 3 times a year and asks for money. Once we "borrowed" him money. Never saw it again. So, no..we don't have money.</p><p> </p><p>husband never, ever mentions growing up or his dad. Never. but the night at the office, when I asked for help with the bills...husband said (yelling) My dad died when I was young and I was on my own. I paid my bills, I know how. I just do not feel sorry for him at all. I paid my bills too. Still do. And his.</p><p> </p><p>husband hasn't yelled at me since WEdnesday night. He has actually been talking in a real voice. One I haven't heard in a really long time. LOL he actually fixed a pipe that has been leaking into a garbage can for over a year. But I still have his phone. He hasn't asked for it. And I can't imagine ever WANTING him to touch me anymore. I did want him to for the past 14 years, but now to know he is looking at those videos, every minute for up to 5 hours WHEN I AM HOME. And at work..in the bathroom. That is just discusting. Just totally discusting.</p><p> </p><p>So, is it really over? I am so hurt. But I don't feel like I want to die anymore. I am to angry to die and let him just have everything. On the other hand, I would love to meet people. Friends. And if one happened to be a male friend, I wouldn't care if husband liked it or not. </p><p> </p><p>Well, this is now. There has been a lot said. A lot to think about. But I know I am not wrong.</p><p> </p><p>No fighting since Wednesday. Not even with difficult child. I just let him. I have told him several times today that he is NOT allowed to speak to me that way. I had him do a few chores, which he didn't like and let me know. husband even told him to do one chore. </p><p> </p><p>Tonight difficult child went bowling with a couple friends. I spent 5 hours cooking two trays of lasagna and dessert bars. Tomorrow husband will take them over to his friends house. The one who lost his daughter last week. I am really beat. Will be up early. Taking easy child out to dinner to celebrate his birthday. Monday won't work for any of us so we will go tomorrow. easy child loves the Brewers. Counting down to the baseball season. So, husband had a good idea. Opening Day tickets. I found some. Not cheap, but bought him two opening day tickets. difficult child is giving him $26 for his golden birthday...26 on the 26.</p><p> </p><p>easy child was such a good boy. I wish I could go back these 26 years.</p><p> </p><p>Thank you guys for all your support.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kjs, post: 237534"] I am seeing a counselor too. therapist's wife. I see her every week. difficult child see's therapist every week and husband and I are suppose to go every week. However-there are not any openings for them for two weeks. This therapist is really good. If he were to come right out and challenge husband, I don't think he would come back. I don't know if therapist will do that. Atleast not yet. husband always told me whatever happened before I met him was none of my business. Most of what I learned, was from his brother. They haven't seen each other in 42 years, and his brother has no address or phone number, but calls about 2 or 3 times a year and asks for money. Once we "borrowed" him money. Never saw it again. So, no..we don't have money. husband never, ever mentions growing up or his dad. Never. but the night at the office, when I asked for help with the bills...husband said (yelling) My dad died when I was young and I was on my own. I paid my bills, I know how. I just do not feel sorry for him at all. I paid my bills too. Still do. And his. husband hasn't yelled at me since WEdnesday night. He has actually been talking in a real voice. One I haven't heard in a really long time. LOL he actually fixed a pipe that has been leaking into a garbage can for over a year. But I still have his phone. He hasn't asked for it. And I can't imagine ever WANTING him to touch me anymore. I did want him to for the past 14 years, but now to know he is looking at those videos, every minute for up to 5 hours WHEN I AM HOME. And at work..in the bathroom. That is just discusting. Just totally discusting. So, is it really over? I am so hurt. But I don't feel like I want to die anymore. I am to angry to die and let him just have everything. On the other hand, I would love to meet people. Friends. And if one happened to be a male friend, I wouldn't care if husband liked it or not. Well, this is now. There has been a lot said. A lot to think about. But I know I am not wrong. No fighting since Wednesday. Not even with difficult child. I just let him. I have told him several times today that he is NOT allowed to speak to me that way. I had him do a few chores, which he didn't like and let me know. husband even told him to do one chore. Tonight difficult child went bowling with a couple friends. I spent 5 hours cooking two trays of lasagna and dessert bars. Tomorrow husband will take them over to his friends house. The one who lost his daughter last week. I am really beat. Will be up early. Taking easy child out to dinner to celebrate his birthday. Monday won't work for any of us so we will go tomorrow. easy child loves the Brewers. Counting down to the baseball season. So, husband had a good idea. Opening Day tickets. I found some. Not cheap, but bought him two opening day tickets. difficult child is giving him $26 for his golden birthday...26 on the 26. easy child was such a good boy. I wish I could go back these 26 years. Thank you guys for all your support. [/QUOTE]
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