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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 696196" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>SWOT. Smoking pot is not legal here--although it soon may be everywhere. What is legal is medicinal marijuana. While he did have a card use it, he has let it lapse and now buys marijuana illegally.</p><p></p><p>As long as he was more or less going with the program, and seemingly improving, I looked the other way although we had said no marijuana. It was when he exploded and busted out a wall, that I put my foot down that he had to get treatment. I gave him time to do so. He dragged his feet, but did look for residential treatment. But not fast or hard enough.</p><p></p><p>It was then that his constantly getting high became intolerable to me, because he was as if blowing smoke in my face. He was telling me what his choice was. I could not look the other way.</p><p></p><p>I have told him: <em>If and when you are productive and more or less content in your life, living independently,what ever that means--your decision to use marijuana is your own.</em></p><p></p><p><em>Do you feel you are there? </em>He answered, <em>No. </em>And added: <em>I am not in the position to consume marijuana to the extent I do.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p>You see, SWOT, smoking marijuana is his whole life. All he wants. When he smokes marijuana nothing at all matters. It is not in the main about the marijuana. It is the price he pays for using it, to maintain emotional stability, or to avoid an un-altered state. It is this way of living that I cannot subsidize.</p><p></p><p>It is my fault--because I let him slip-slide and not pay half of his SSI in rent. I did not want to be hard on him. I ended up enabling. I do not think I ever had the illusion that I could force him to stop or start doing anything. I know better, by experience.</p><p></p><p>But we became increasingly hemmed in by my son's behavior and choices. We did not want to kick him out. We kept trying to incentivize him to make better choices. Unfortunately we could not do it by imposing rules, or setting boundaries over his behavior.</p><p></p><p>Of course, only he can do that. Thank you for understanding the difficulty of our situation. Nobody wanted my son out. Except his choices created the situation. I am sure you understand why we could not live with him busting walls or refrigerators or doors.</p><p></p><p>This was not about pot. But pot was involved. There are better ways to respond to mental illness, than addiction. Unfortunately buying marijuana seems to be the most appealing to my son. It is in the main about the mental illness--not the pot.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 696196, member: 18958"] SWOT. Smoking pot is not legal here--although it soon may be everywhere. What is legal is medicinal marijuana. While he did have a card use it, he has let it lapse and now buys marijuana illegally. As long as he was more or less going with the program, and seemingly improving, I looked the other way although we had said no marijuana. It was when he exploded and busted out a wall, that I put my foot down that he had to get treatment. I gave him time to do so. He dragged his feet, but did look for residential treatment. But not fast or hard enough. It was then that his constantly getting high became intolerable to me, because he was as if blowing smoke in my face. He was telling me what his choice was. I could not look the other way. I have told him: [I]If and when you are productive and more or less content in your life, living independently,what ever that means--your decision to use marijuana is your own.[/I] [I]Do you feel you are there? [/I]He answered, [I]No. [/I]And added: [I]I am not in the position to consume marijuana to the extent I do. [/I] You see, SWOT, smoking marijuana is his whole life. All he wants. When he smokes marijuana nothing at all matters. It is not in the main about the marijuana. It is the price he pays for using it, to maintain emotional stability, or to avoid an un-altered state. It is this way of living that I cannot subsidize. It is my fault--because I let him slip-slide and not pay half of his SSI in rent. I did not want to be hard on him. I ended up enabling. I do not think I ever had the illusion that I could force him to stop or start doing anything. I know better, by experience. But we became increasingly hemmed in by my son's behavior and choices. We did not want to kick him out. We kept trying to incentivize him to make better choices. Unfortunately we could not do it by imposing rules, or setting boundaries over his behavior. Of course, only he can do that. Thank you for understanding the difficulty of our situation. Nobody wanted my son out. Except his choices created the situation. I am sure you understand why we could not live with him busting walls or refrigerators or doors. This was not about pot. But pot was involved. There are better ways to respond to mental illness, than addiction. Unfortunately buying marijuana seems to be the most appealing to my son. It is in the main about the mental illness--not the pot. [/QUOTE]
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