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Crazy Eyes during Tantrum - like she wasn't there
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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 251163" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">My difficult child also got the crazy look in her eye during a meltdown/rage attack and even now when she's flying off the handle or having a temper tantrum, the crazy eyes are back, except it's even scarier now because she's older, goes straight for the jugular with words and can storm around more. She gets so nuts that I often cannot diffuse the situation or help her to see reason - I don't know what she will do. She's thrown things, threatened and hit and broken things. At least when she was little, I had more physical control. Thankfully, she doesn't fly off the handle hardly ever anymore - not since she stopped seeing her old loser boyfriend.</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">H and I had a way of telling that there was a possibility of a meltdown after a while. Either the end of an extremely busy day, too much dairy or sugar, a party or special event, not enough sleep or too much sleep, and a break in routine - all of those things were potential triggers. So, when we thought about it or remembered, we would try and keep a certain routine or calm going. </span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">By far the best remedy for a meltdown with my difficult child was putting her into a warm bath with bubbles. Even if she was flailing all over the place and freaking out screaming and crying. I would run the bath (or have H do it) add some bubbles and take the little bean in there and plop her down into it. Within minutes, she was back to her old self again. By the time she played, I dried her off and lotioned her up, she was ready for some down time, a book, and sleep. Worked like magic. Much more effective than trying to make her stay in her room (Hahahaha - NOT) or adding more punishment (fuel to the fire, in my opinion). </span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">I second not locking her in her room - that can be extremely terrifying for a child or even an adult who can logically understand why he/she is being locked in her room. Locking her in her room will only add to her frustration and anger and cause you more grief in the long run. Find a different way to either get her to settle down or take a time out for yourself. Occasionally, if I had had enough, I would lock MYSELF in my room so she couldn't get in - just to get away from her. Or the bathroom. Even if she banged on the door and sat ourside screaming at me, I was still in my own space and it helped me to regroup.</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #483d8b">Have you discussed medications with her DR at all? Risperdal was a lifesaver for us when difficult child was younger. </span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 251163, member: 2211"] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]My difficult child also got the crazy look in her eye during a meltdown/rage attack and even now when she's flying off the handle or having a temper tantrum, the crazy eyes are back, except it's even scarier now because she's older, goes straight for the jugular with words and can storm around more. She gets so nuts that I often cannot diffuse the situation or help her to see reason - I don't know what she will do. She's thrown things, threatened and hit and broken things. At least when she was little, I had more physical control. Thankfully, she doesn't fly off the handle hardly ever anymore - not since she stopped seeing her old loser boyfriend.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]H and I had a way of telling that there was a possibility of a meltdown after a while. Either the end of an extremely busy day, too much dairy or sugar, a party or special event, not enough sleep or too much sleep, and a break in routine - all of those things were potential triggers. So, when we thought about it or remembered, we would try and keep a certain routine or calm going. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]By far the best remedy for a meltdown with my difficult child was putting her into a warm bath with bubbles. Even if she was flailing all over the place and freaking out screaming and crying. I would run the bath (or have H do it) add some bubbles and take the little bean in there and plop her down into it. Within minutes, she was back to her old self again. By the time she played, I dried her off and lotioned her up, she was ready for some down time, a book, and sleep. Worked like magic. Much more effective than trying to make her stay in her room (Hahahaha - NOT) or adding more punishment (fuel to the fire, in my opinion). [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]I second not locking her in her room - that can be extremely terrifying for a child or even an adult who can logically understand why he/she is being locked in her room. Locking her in her room will only add to her frustration and anger and cause you more grief in the long run. Find a different way to either get her to settle down or take a time out for yourself. Occasionally, if I had had enough, I would lock MYSELF in my room so she couldn't get in - just to get away from her. Or the bathroom. Even if she banged on the door and sat ourside screaming at me, I was still in my own space and it helped me to regroup.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=#483d8b]Have you discussed medications with her DR at all? Risperdal was a lifesaver for us when difficult child was younger. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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