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Crazy Eyes during Tantrum - like she wasn't there
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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 251519" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>I get it. Yes, there are always going to be times when no matter what you do, she's going to break down and fall apart.</p><p> </p><p>For me, when difficult children were 6 years old, I could restrain them. Sometimes a firm hug from behind would be enough to help them calm down after a while. Sometimes. Other times I had to get them outside to cool off. I still tell difficult child 2 to go for a walk when he's getting angry and loud. But with your pain issues, I realize that's not the best option.</p><p> </p><p>And despite what others have said about not locking your child in their room, I have held the door shut while they railed against it on the other side. Sometimes that just made them madder, but it was safer for me and the other kids if the monster kid was kept isolated until things cooled down.</p><p> </p><p>Have you tried some kind of behavior chart or point system where she earns points for good behavior and loses points for bad behavior? So many points to earn one prize level. It could even be an hourly thing. And the prizes can be traded up the more points she earns? It has to be something that's VERY appealing to her. We're talking HUGE carrot. Maybe she could help you come up with ideas. Doesn't have to be a monetary thing either. It can be something like staying up an extra 30 minutes at night. Or getting to help do something she doesn't normally get to do. Or earning a sheet of stickers. Getting to watch one extra TV show. An outing to a special park. An extra story at bedtime. Getting her toenails painted by mom. Choosing the dinner menu and helping to make it.</p><p> </p><p>Then again, maybe you've tried all that and it hasn't worked. </p><p> </p><p>Wish I had the answers. Sometimes you just have to keep trying until you find what works.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 251519, member: 3444"] I get it. Yes, there are always going to be times when no matter what you do, she's going to break down and fall apart. For me, when difficult children were 6 years old, I could restrain them. Sometimes a firm hug from behind would be enough to help them calm down after a while. Sometimes. Other times I had to get them outside to cool off. I still tell difficult child 2 to go for a walk when he's getting angry and loud. But with your pain issues, I realize that's not the best option. And despite what others have said about not locking your child in their room, I have held the door shut while they railed against it on the other side. Sometimes that just made them madder, but it was safer for me and the other kids if the monster kid was kept isolated until things cooled down. Have you tried some kind of behavior chart or point system where she earns points for good behavior and loses points for bad behavior? So many points to earn one prize level. It could even be an hourly thing. And the prizes can be traded up the more points she earns? It has to be something that's VERY appealing to her. We're talking HUGE carrot. Maybe she could help you come up with ideas. Doesn't have to be a monetary thing either. It can be something like staying up an extra 30 minutes at night. Or getting to help do something she doesn't normally get to do. Or earning a sheet of stickers. Getting to watch one extra TV show. An outing to a special park. An extra story at bedtime. Getting her toenails painted by mom. Choosing the dinner menu and helping to make it. Then again, maybe you've tried all that and it hasn't worked. Wish I had the answers. Sometimes you just have to keep trying until you find what works. [/QUOTE]
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