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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 676020" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>In posts here it is written, and I have written it myself-</p><p>"Take care, be very kind to yourself, you have value, you matter."</p><p></p><p>The holidays this year had me going through this process of feeling <em>stuck</em>, I went through this numb feeling, as the debacle of my situation bore down on me<em> without</em> my two d cs.</p><p></p><p>How to carry on and have joy?</p><p></p><p>I have detached physically, but somehow there is this <em>void</em> now and then.</p><p>The holiday seemed to magnify the void and a kind of feeling of <em>emotional</em> <em>paralysis </em>set in.</p><p></p><p>Putting on some Christmas music and setting up the tree and decorations helped to lift my mood a bit, but there was still this underlying lingering of- <em>nothingness</em>?</p><p></p><p>Now that the New Year approaches, there is a yearning to start fresh, to build, to lift up and move away from the intensity of this nothingness feeling. It is entirely too yucky to stay here.</p><p></p><p>So, I thought, I am not being kind to myself.</p><p></p><p>2016, a new year. <em>New beginnings</em>..........</p><p></p><p>It is so important to love others, but I do believe it is equally important to have feelings of self worth, develop self care, build self confidence and self esteem.</p><p></p><p><em>Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you......</em></p><p>If we are not kind to ourselves, have a measure of self respect, are others able to be kind, to respect us?</p><p></p><p>How are we to be kind and giving to others, if we do not take care of ourselves?</p><p></p><p>On a similar thread, Cedar shared this quote:</p><p><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: #0000ff"><strong>“Drink your tea slowly and reverently, as if it is the axis on which the world earth revolves - slowly, evenly, without rushing toward the future.”</strong></span></span></p><p>― <a href="http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/9074.Th_ch_Nh_t_H_nh" target="_blank">Thích Nhất Hạnh</a></p><p></p><p>I love the thought that doing something simply, with slow intention, being present, is being kind to ourselves. Thank you Cedar</p><p></p><p>I found this article (I might have pasted before, or others may have)</p><p>I thought it had some good ideas.</p><p></p><p><a href="http://zenhabits.net/25-killer-actions-to-boost-your-self-confidence/" target="_blank">http://zenhabits.net/25-killer-actions-to-boost-your-self-confidence/</a></p><p></p><p>Copa introduced us to Iris Apfel</p><p></p><p>[MEDIA=youtube]5Pgf34wSVmE[/MEDIA]</p><p></p><p>I just LOVE her, she is completely herself...Thank you Copa</p><p></p><p>At the end of the clip they asked her for three words to define her approach to life</p><p></p><p>"ONLY ONE TRIP.....might as well live it up." Iris has also done a huge amount of<em> charity work</em>.</p><p></p><p>Serenity shared this with me</p><p></p><p></p><p>Thank you Serenity, I think this is so true, when we give back, we are helping ourselves heal, we are being kind to ourselves, by <em>giving </em>to others.</p><p></p><p>All of you folks here on CD, have been so kind and loving, giving of yourselves to comfort others on similar journeys.....ending many posts with "Be very kind to yourself......."</p><p></p><p>What are your thoughts on being kind to yourselves? What does that mean for you?</p><p></p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 676020, member: 19522"] In posts here it is written, and I have written it myself- "Take care, be very kind to yourself, you have value, you matter." The holidays this year had me going through this process of feeling [I]stuck[/I], I went through this numb feeling, as the debacle of my situation bore down on me[I] without[/I] my two d cs. How to carry on and have joy? I have detached physically, but somehow there is this [I]void[/I] now and then. The holiday seemed to magnify the void and a kind of feeling of [I]emotional[/I] [I]paralysis [/I]set in. Putting on some Christmas music and setting up the tree and decorations helped to lift my mood a bit, but there was still this underlying lingering of- [I]nothingness[/I]? Now that the New Year approaches, there is a yearning to start fresh, to build, to lift up and move away from the intensity of this nothingness feeling. It is entirely too yucky to stay here. So, I thought, I am not being kind to myself. 2016, a new year. [I]New beginnings[/I].......... It is so important to love others, but I do believe it is equally important to have feelings of self worth, develop self care, build self confidence and self esteem. [I]Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you......[/I] If we are not kind to ourselves, have a measure of self respect, are others able to be kind, to respect us? How are we to be kind and giving to others, if we do not take care of ourselves? On a similar thread, Cedar shared this quote: [SIZE=4][COLOR=#0000ff][B]“Drink your tea slowly and reverently, as if it is the axis on which the world earth revolves - slowly, evenly, without rushing toward the future.”[/B][/COLOR][/SIZE] ― [URL='http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/9074.Th_ch_Nh_t_H_nh']Thích Nhất Hạnh[/URL] I love the thought that doing something simply, with slow intention, being present, is being kind to ourselves. Thank you Cedar I found this article (I might have pasted before, or others may have) I thought it had some good ideas. [URL]http://zenhabits.net/25-killer-actions-to-boost-your-self-confidence/[/URL] Copa introduced us to Iris Apfel [MEDIA=youtube]5Pgf34wSVmE[/MEDIA] I just LOVE her, she is completely herself...Thank you Copa At the end of the clip they asked her for three words to define her approach to life "ONLY ONE TRIP.....might as well live it up." Iris has also done a huge amount of[I] charity work[/I]. Serenity shared this with me Thank you Serenity, I think this is so true, when we give back, we are helping ourselves heal, we are being kind to ourselves, by [I]giving [/I]to others. All of you folks here on CD, have been so kind and loving, giving of yourselves to comfort others on similar journeys.....ending many posts with "Be very kind to yourself......." What are your thoughts on being kind to yourselves? What does that mean for you? (((HUGS))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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