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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 676359" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Serenity, it is not normal for one sister to invade the other's privacy. If she were to send a beautiful card, if she were willing to back off and start fresh and make amends for the embarrassing behaviors in her past...you would still need to think long and hard about letting your sister back into your heart. Instead of taking responsibility for her actions, your sister is stalking you again. It isn't that all contact, forever, would be wrong. It's that your sister is not behaving in ways that are sincere ad on some level you know it. The sister lucky enough to have you in her life Serenity needs to be a sister wonderful enough that you feel lucky to have her in your life, too.</p><p></p><p>That may happen, someday?</p><p></p><p>But there is no indication <u>at all</u> that Sister is sincere right now.</p><p></p><p>It is normal for you to wonder about her Serenity. You have a generous heart. I will be happy once you are strong enough again to begin your volunteer work, again. </p><p></p><p>There are people in the world who really do need you, Serenity. You can make such a difference in their lives. If your sister is back in your life, she will twist everything around like she did before.</p><p></p><p>Your sister is not behaving toward you as someone who deserves to have you in her life would behave.</p><p></p><p>No cheating...remember when you told us how important it was that we not cheat? Our hearts are too soft. We are vulnerable to the sisters because we do love them. </p><p></p><p>Their behaviors toward us indicate they do not love us.</p><p></p><p>Do you remember when we discovered, "Pray for their peace and therein, find our own."?</p><p></p><p>That helps me, when I feel so puzzled about how this could be happening.</p><p></p><p>Remember in the movie Forrest Gump? And Bubba says: "Why'd this happen, Forrest?" And Forrest says: "You got shot, Bubba." It's like that with us and our families of origin I think. I can't figure out how these terrible things happened, either. </p><p></p><p>Sometimes, I think about that scene from Forrest Gump.</p><p></p><p>Your sister called the police on you Serenity to humiliate you in your old town and to destroy your reputation in your new town.</p><p></p><p>Whatever it is she is doing...she called the police on you, Serenity. People just don't do things like that. Nor do they push their siblings into pounding on their doors without answering, or putting them on "No Contact" until they want to hoover on over and stir a little something up.</p><p></p><p>But your sister has done all those things.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 676359, member: 17461"] Serenity, it is not normal for one sister to invade the other's privacy. If she were to send a beautiful card, if she were willing to back off and start fresh and make amends for the embarrassing behaviors in her past...you would still need to think long and hard about letting your sister back into your heart. Instead of taking responsibility for her actions, your sister is stalking you again. It isn't that all contact, forever, would be wrong. It's that your sister is not behaving in ways that are sincere ad on some level you know it. The sister lucky enough to have you in her life Serenity needs to be a sister wonderful enough that you feel lucky to have her in your life, too. That may happen, someday? But there is no indication [U]at all[/U] that Sister is sincere right now. It is normal for you to wonder about her Serenity. You have a generous heart. I will be happy once you are strong enough again to begin your volunteer work, again. There are people in the world who really do need you, Serenity. You can make such a difference in their lives. If your sister is back in your life, she will twist everything around like she did before. Your sister is not behaving toward you as someone who deserves to have you in her life would behave. No cheating...remember when you told us how important it was that we not cheat? Our hearts are too soft. We are vulnerable to the sisters because we do love them. Their behaviors toward us indicate they do not love us. Do you remember when we discovered, "Pray for their peace and therein, find our own."? That helps me, when I feel so puzzled about how this could be happening. Remember in the movie Forrest Gump? And Bubba says: "Why'd this happen, Forrest?" And Forrest says: "You got shot, Bubba." It's like that with us and our families of origin I think. I can't figure out how these terrible things happened, either. Sometimes, I think about that scene from Forrest Gump. Your sister called the police on you Serenity to humiliate you in your old town and to destroy your reputation in your new town. Whatever it is she is doing...she called the police on you, Serenity. People just don't do things like that. Nor do they push their siblings into pounding on their doors without answering, or putting them on "No Contact" until they want to hoover on over and stir a little something up. But your sister has done all those things. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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