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Cultured difficult child and the money....how do I respond?
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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 358235" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>I guess I just worry about expecting too much or being too hard on her. I don't want to treat her unfairly, but then again, as I told easy child 1 and difficult child 1 when they were teens, life isn't "fair", so get over it. They didn't treat me the same way, so I didn't respond and react to them the same way, either. Has nothing to do with "fair".</p><p>***</p><p>Things that are issues with cultured difficult child would be addressed entirely differently if she lived here. We're supposed to be parenting figures, but it seems next to impossible to play that role in situations like this. If easy child 1 or difficult child 1 or even Wee had done this, they'd have been marched front and center to fess up to all involved and the money in question would have been locked up for a long time - and if they'd already bought an Ipod on loan, as cultured difficult child has, it would be locked up for a period, too. And we'd go on about the weekend.</p><p>****</p><p>But we aren't in that position. So the next best thing I can see is the natural consequence that comes from treating someone that way in the real world. My nephew was drunk and hit a parked car. He told the people involved his name was easy child 1 before he took off. Guess what? Nephew was no longer welcome in our space for a long time (still isn't unless we are around.) Family or not, you don't do that koi. He used to like to fish and swim in our pond and ride the horses...and he lost that.</p><p>***</p><p>Thanks for the input, ladies. As usual.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 358235, member: 1848"] I guess I just worry about expecting too much or being too hard on her. I don't want to treat her unfairly, but then again, as I told easy child 1 and difficult child 1 when they were teens, life isn't "fair", so get over it. They didn't treat me the same way, so I didn't respond and react to them the same way, either. Has nothing to do with "fair". *** Things that are issues with cultured difficult child would be addressed entirely differently if she lived here. We're supposed to be parenting figures, but it seems next to impossible to play that role in situations like this. If easy child 1 or difficult child 1 or even Wee had done this, they'd have been marched front and center to fess up to all involved and the money in question would have been locked up for a long time - and if they'd already bought an Ipod on loan, as cultured difficult child has, it would be locked up for a period, too. And we'd go on about the weekend. **** But we aren't in that position. So the next best thing I can see is the natural consequence that comes from treating someone that way in the real world. My nephew was drunk and hit a parked car. He told the people involved his name was easy child 1 before he took off. Guess what? Nephew was no longer welcome in our space for a long time (still isn't unless we are around.) Family or not, you don't do that koi. He used to like to fish and swim in our pond and ride the horses...and he lost that. *** Thanks for the input, ladies. As usual. [/QUOTE]
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