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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 754415" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>I just realized that your question was how to get them out of your brain. Sorry about that. I rambled on about something you did not ask. </p><p></p><p>For me, I have had to (slowly and still practicing this) learn to take control of my brain. I realize that just because I can think a thought does not make it true. And I don't need to allow my brain to run the show . I can only hold one thought at a time, so I can stop a thought and replace it with another. I can cut the tape of the incessant, running monologue my brain wishes to engage me in all day. </p><p></p><p>The first step to this is to become an observer of my thoughts . This teaches me that I am not my thoughts. That I don't have to believe every thought. I detach from my thoughts. </p><p></p><p>The next step is to learn to quiet my mind. Yoga does an excellent job of this. In fact, the yoga sutras describe yoga as "yoga chitta vritti norodaha" which means "yoga is the cessation of the fluctuations of the mind". Meditation is the next tool in my tool box to learn to quiet and control my mind. Meditation practice requires discipline before we start to see some results and they are slow coming which makes this a little bit of a harder tool to practice. Having said that meditation yields HUGE results if you stick with it. After a while , you will be able to cut thoughts off and return to the stillness inside when you want serenity. </p><p></p><p>In the moment before I have these tools in my tool belt, and I am tortured by my thoughts about others, I can come back toy own body. Feel my legs, feel my arms, ground myself . And take care of me. Ask what do I need right now? Get into your life. Do the next right thing. Things as simple as making the bed, fixing my breakfast, going to the gym, cleaning my space etc And controlling my thoughts by making mental gratitude lists. By playing games with my mind like naming all the spiritual principles I AM but they all have to be stated as nouns and cannot be repeated . Go as long as you can think of new ones : " I am love, I am harmony, I am well-being, I am balance, I am equanimity, I am unity, I am health ......etc</p><p>Get into the present moment. Force your mind to give you a running account of what you are doing/observing/sensing right now:" I am driving the car. The seat is supporting my bottom. The back rest is supporting my back. I feel the A/C blowing on my facial skin. The sun is shining. There are clouds in the sky. My hands are gripping the steering wheel. Can I losen the grip? Can I relax my jaw.....etc</p><p></p><p>Breathing exercises are very valuable in anchoring us in the present moment. Breathe in for 4, hold for 4, breathe out for 4, hold for 4. Keep going. It requires concentration and calms the nervous system.</p><p></p><p>I also like to pray for loved ones in affirmative prayer, then let go.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 754415, member: 24254"] I just realized that your question was how to get them out of your brain. Sorry about that. I rambled on about something you did not ask. For me, I have had to (slowly and still practicing this) learn to take control of my brain. I realize that just because I can think a thought does not make it true. And I don't need to allow my brain to run the show . I can only hold one thought at a time, so I can stop a thought and replace it with another. I can cut the tape of the incessant, running monologue my brain wishes to engage me in all day. The first step to this is to become an observer of my thoughts . This teaches me that I am not my thoughts. That I don't have to believe every thought. I detach from my thoughts. The next step is to learn to quiet my mind. Yoga does an excellent job of this. In fact, the yoga sutras describe yoga as "yoga chitta vritti norodaha" which means "yoga is the cessation of the fluctuations of the mind". Meditation is the next tool in my tool box to learn to quiet and control my mind. Meditation practice requires discipline before we start to see some results and they are slow coming which makes this a little bit of a harder tool to practice. Having said that meditation yields HUGE results if you stick with it. After a while , you will be able to cut thoughts off and return to the stillness inside when you want serenity. In the moment before I have these tools in my tool belt, and I am tortured by my thoughts about others, I can come back toy own body. Feel my legs, feel my arms, ground myself . And take care of me. Ask what do I need right now? Get into your life. Do the next right thing. Things as simple as making the bed, fixing my breakfast, going to the gym, cleaning my space etc And controlling my thoughts by making mental gratitude lists. By playing games with my mind like naming all the spiritual principles I AM but they all have to be stated as nouns and cannot be repeated . Go as long as you can think of new ones : " I am love, I am harmony, I am well-being, I am balance, I am equanimity, I am unity, I am health ......etc Get into the present moment. Force your mind to give you a running account of what you are doing/observing/sensing right now:" I am driving the car. The seat is supporting my bottom. The back rest is supporting my back. I feel the A/C blowing on my facial skin. The sun is shining. There are clouds in the sky. My hands are gripping the steering wheel. Can I losen the grip? Can I relax my jaw.....etc Breathing exercises are very valuable in anchoring us in the present moment. Breathe in for 4, hold for 4, breathe out for 4, hold for 4. Keep going. It requires concentration and calms the nervous system. I also like to pray for loved ones in affirmative prayer, then let go. [/QUOTE]
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