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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 110116"><p>Linda, </p><p></p><p>I know it hurts to hear those words, but I think it's a pretty normal thing, not a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) thing, although I'm sure the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) makes it harder for him to come to terms with - adds a whole new level of fear and insecurity.</p><p></p><p>I was in the hospital 3 times this year and we didn't let difficult child come visit because I knew she wouldn't be able to do with it. It would kick her anxiety into high gear and she would start with the cards (again) on how she hopes I never die. I did talk to her everyday, but we all agreed it was best if she didn't see me. That was hard for me as after coming so close to dying, all I wanted was to hold my kids. easy child visited me on my third hospital stay and with all the wires (heart monitor, blood pressure cuff, oxygen, iv) and the monitors beeping when my pulse dropped too low, etc, he was obviously distressed and he's a neurotypical 16 year old. He only visited for less than an hour and it was obvious that he couldn't wait to get out of there.</p><p></p><p>Heck, the first time I cut my hair short my kids were 4 and 8 and they both cried. </p><p></p><p>In the eyes of a child, the parent is supposed to be invincible and anything that shakes that perception rocks their world.</p><p></p><p>He's not rejecting you. He's afraid of what will happen to him if something happens to you.</p><p></p><p>But, I know it still hurts. Deeply.</p><p></p><p></p><p>(((((hugs)))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 110116"] Linda, I know it hurts to hear those words, but I think it's a pretty normal thing, not a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) thing, although I'm sure the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) makes it harder for him to come to terms with - adds a whole new level of fear and insecurity. I was in the hospital 3 times this year and we didn't let difficult child come visit because I knew she wouldn't be able to do with it. It would kick her anxiety into high gear and she would start with the cards (again) on how she hopes I never die. I did talk to her everyday, but we all agreed it was best if she didn't see me. That was hard for me as after coming so close to dying, all I wanted was to hold my kids. easy child visited me on my third hospital stay and with all the wires (heart monitor, blood pressure cuff, oxygen, iv) and the monitors beeping when my pulse dropped too low, etc, he was obviously distressed and he's a neurotypical 16 year old. He only visited for less than an hour and it was obvious that he couldn't wait to get out of there. Heck, the first time I cut my hair short my kids were 4 and 8 and they both cried. In the eyes of a child, the parent is supposed to be invincible and anything that shakes that perception rocks their world. He's not rejecting you. He's afraid of what will happen to him if something happens to you. But, I know it still hurts. Deeply. (((((hugs))))) [/QUOTE]
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