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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 110184" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>Linda several years ago I had cancer on my face that caused me to have many hours of reconstructive surgery, I look very different as a result and still have very noticable scars. My family would say things they thought I should hear but it only hurt. Yes the family members are affected by what happens to us but we are the one it is happening to. At a time when a person is in need gentelness anything less can be devastating. While I agree that William probably didn't mean to hurt you, I understand that he did and why you feel and reacted the way you did. </p><p></p><p>You do not have to always "be the mom". You personally do not have to make William understand your illness. Let the caretakers do that. Tell them to inform William that he cannot say those kinds of things because it hurts you and that to continue now that he is aware of it's effect on you would be mean. If he continues to upset you then stop your visits. He is being taken care of you are not. The stress of the Tweedles has got to have factored into your health. You have given and done much for them and you continue to be dedicated to them. If you do not take care of you first then you will not be able to do for them.</p><p></p><p>-RM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 110184, member: 2315"] Linda several years ago I had cancer on my face that caused me to have many hours of reconstructive surgery, I look very different as a result and still have very noticable scars. My family would say things they thought I should hear but it only hurt. Yes the family members are affected by what happens to us but we are the one it is happening to. At a time when a person is in need gentelness anything less can be devastating. While I agree that William probably didn't mean to hurt you, I understand that he did and why you feel and reacted the way you did. You do not have to always "be the mom". You personally do not have to make William understand your illness. Let the caretakers do that. Tell them to inform William that he cannot say those kinds of things because it hurts you and that to continue now that he is aware of it's effect on you would be mean. If he continues to upset you then stop your visits. He is being taken care of you are not. The stress of the Tweedles has got to have factored into your health. You have given and done much for them and you continue to be dedicated to them. If you do not take care of you first then you will not be able to do for them. -RM [/QUOTE]
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