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Daisy...here is that poem on borderline for you
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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 439940" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Janet--</p><p></p><p>Thank you SO MUCH for sharing that.</p><p></p><p>I see my daughter very clearly in that poem....</p><p></p><p>But the million dollar question remains - <em>How?</em> How does one stop or break through the cycle?</p><p></p><p>You said:</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>And this is what the counselor sort-of suggested....that when my daughter is in a full-blown rage, I should walk over and kiss her on the head.</p><p></p><p>My eyes must have gotten wide as saucers and I responded "You are suggesting that I go kiss the bear!"</p><p></p><p>husband has had to restrain difficult child on several occassions as she was attempting to hurt herself - but her response was to scream, flail, and kick at him. Me? I am not a large woman. difficult child is about my size. If I were to attempt to restrain her? I would get seriously hurt.</p><p></p><p>Do you think a hug or a kiss would <em>really</em> fix it in that moment of violent rage?</p><p></p><p>Or is the rage an eruption of painful emotions that just has to run its course? IOW - there is so much emotion boiling up from inside that nothing would stop it?</p><p></p><p>And (forgive me if these are too many questions) does therapy focus on getting those emotions under control so they do not boil over? or is the focus something different?</p><p></p><p>I do think that difficult child needs to learn emotions. She does not seem to recognize any sensation other than Irritated. "I was irritated." "He was annoying - it made me irritated." "She is irritating." The therapist is trying to work on this, but has not made much progress.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 439940, member: 6546"] Janet-- Thank you SO MUCH for sharing that. I see my daughter very clearly in that poem.... But the million dollar question remains - [I]How?[/I] How does one stop or break through the cycle? You said: And this is what the counselor sort-of suggested....that when my daughter is in a full-blown rage, I should walk over and kiss her on the head. My eyes must have gotten wide as saucers and I responded "You are suggesting that I go kiss the bear!" husband has had to restrain difficult child on several occassions as she was attempting to hurt herself - but her response was to scream, flail, and kick at him. Me? I am not a large woman. difficult child is about my size. If I were to attempt to restrain her? I would get seriously hurt. Do you think a hug or a kiss would [I]really[/I] fix it in that moment of violent rage? Or is the rage an eruption of painful emotions that just has to run its course? IOW - there is so much emotion boiling up from inside that nothing would stop it? And (forgive me if these are too many questions) does therapy focus on getting those emotions under control so they do not boil over? or is the focus something different? I do think that difficult child needs to learn emotions. She does not seem to recognize any sensation other than Irritated. "I was irritated." "He was annoying - it made me irritated." "She is irritating." The therapist is trying to work on this, but has not made much progress. [/QUOTE]
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