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<blockquote data-quote="Across The Pond" data-source="post: 755043" data-attributes="member: 24932"><p>This story is very sad indeed tryingtobestrong. Sorry for your pain</p><p></p><p>Our son is very detached from us and does not take our very good advice either. In fact he says anything we suggest he does not want to do because we said so, so we do not suggest much anymore</p><p>Our son's life is at a standstill, so I kind of know a bit how you feel.</p><p></p><p>I have had to relinquish every aspiration I ever had for him. He does not even have a job. I cannot hope that he ever will. I want the best for him but am having to accept that there is nothing i can do to change him unless he makes changes. It's his life and i feel it's important that his choices do not take the joy out of my own life so i try not to ruminate or get involved. I call it 'his business'.</p><p></p><p>Maybe your son does just want to talk/connect to you, but needs to find his own solutions. There are ways you can talk to encourage him to think about things and use his own resources to find solutions, or just be there with him holding his hand on the other end of the phone, agreeing that life can be hard sometimes but not trying to change him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Across The Pond, post: 755043, member: 24932"] This story is very sad indeed tryingtobestrong. Sorry for your pain Our son is very detached from us and does not take our very good advice either. In fact he says anything we suggest he does not want to do because we said so, so we do not suggest much anymore Our son's life is at a standstill, so I kind of know a bit how you feel. I have had to relinquish every aspiration I ever had for him. He does not even have a job. I cannot hope that he ever will. I want the best for him but am having to accept that there is nothing i can do to change him unless he makes changes. It's his life and i feel it's important that his choices do not take the joy out of my own life so i try not to ruminate or get involved. I call it 'his business'. Maybe your son does just want to talk/connect to you, but needs to find his own solutions. There are ways you can talk to encourage him to think about things and use his own resources to find solutions, or just be there with him holding his hand on the other end of the phone, agreeing that life can be hard sometimes but not trying to change him. [/QUOTE]
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