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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 755165" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Trying I am sorry this has been such a long road for you and all of us. While I don’t see a whole lot of change with your son, I sense from your posting that you are getting stronger in your reaction and response. That is a great thing, for <em>him</em> and for <em>you</em>. Please don’t apologize for being at your end with him, that is a natural and healthy response towards a loved one who continues on the same dark path. There are some variations that are encouraging from my perspective having two addicted daughters who have never been through treatment. He has tried rehab and sober living. Those are baby steps.</p><p>I am more encouraged that you are giving this to God and knowing that you cannot do anything to change or control his choices. This is a giant step towards disentangling from his disease. It doesn’t mean you do not love him, you are stepping back and allowing him to own his consequences. Keep up your strength, Trying, take very good care of yourself. It is hard knowing our beloveds have struggles, but when they are ready and willing to accept help, they can. I have long given in to the notion that anything I say or do will help my two. I have not given up hope that they will one day find their potential. I pray for that often. I just can’t and won’t be emotionally vested in that outcome more than they are. It turns me into a hot mess. That is a waste of my life.</p><p>That is nothing to be sorry about dear sister, just an absolute fact.</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 755165, member: 19522"] Hi Trying I am sorry this has been such a long road for you and all of us. While I don’t see a whole lot of change with your son, I sense from your posting that you are getting stronger in your reaction and response. That is a great thing, for [I]him[/I] and for [I]you[/I]. Please don’t apologize for being at your end with him, that is a natural and healthy response towards a loved one who continues on the same dark path. There are some variations that are encouraging from my perspective having two addicted daughters who have never been through treatment. He has tried rehab and sober living. Those are baby steps. I am more encouraged that you are giving this to God and knowing that you cannot do anything to change or control his choices. This is a giant step towards disentangling from his disease. It doesn’t mean you do not love him, you are stepping back and allowing him to own his consequences. Keep up your strength, Trying, take very good care of yourself. It is hard knowing our beloveds have struggles, but when they are ready and willing to accept help, they can. I have long given in to the notion that anything I say or do will help my two. I have not given up hope that they will one day find their potential. I pray for that often. I just can’t and won’t be emotionally vested in that outcome more than they are. It turns me into a hot mess. That is a waste of my life. That is nothing to be sorry about dear sister, just an absolute fact. (((Hugs))) Leafy [/QUOTE]
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