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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 134763" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>You know, what you are describing with this SD is called prejudicial treatment. They have deemed him a "bad boy", and therefore anything he does has to either match their label of "bad boy", or be so over the top good that is there is no room for argument that he is being acceptable in his behavior. Does that make sense? It's like he already has 20 strikes against him before he even starts. It is crazy making - for you, for him, and it is oh so not right.</p><p></p><p>I went through this for <em>years</em> with my difficult child and the schools. He got blamed for stuff he did not do, his actions were twisted into being worse than they were, parents started complaining that he should not be in the class with "their" kids, neighbors told my friends and people I was dating that difficult child was bad and they should not hang around me - after years of this, he eventually internally categorized himself as bad. Just writing this makes me so sad and mad again, I feel physically like lightning has hit my nervous system - I guess because there are no solutions for this stereotyping and discriminations done against our mentally ill children. Grrrr........</p><p></p><p>All of that to say - maybe moving would be beneficial??? If everyone at your present school has your son pegged as bad, than moving might be step in a new direction. Not to say that if he acts up, this cycle won't start again - but he sounds so much more stable now - that perhaps he will just be a "kid with a few problems" rather than "bad".</p><p></p><p>Just my 2 cents<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/sheepish.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sheepish:" title="sheepish :sheepish:" data-shortname=":sheepish:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 134763, member: 3301"] You know, what you are describing with this SD is called prejudicial treatment. They have deemed him a "bad boy", and therefore anything he does has to either match their label of "bad boy", or be so over the top good that is there is no room for argument that he is being acceptable in his behavior. Does that make sense? It's like he already has 20 strikes against him before he even starts. It is crazy making - for you, for him, and it is oh so not right. I went through this for [I]years[/I] with my difficult child and the schools. He got blamed for stuff he did not do, his actions were twisted into being worse than they were, parents started complaining that he should not be in the class with "their" kids, neighbors told my friends and people I was dating that difficult child was bad and they should not hang around me - after years of this, he eventually internally categorized himself as bad. Just writing this makes me so sad and mad again, I feel physically like lightning has hit my nervous system - I guess because there are no solutions for this stereotyping and discriminations done against our mentally ill children. Grrrr........ All of that to say - maybe moving would be beneficial??? If everyone at your present school has your son pegged as bad, than moving might be step in a new direction. Not to say that if he acts up, this cycle won't start again - but he sounds so much more stable now - that perhaps he will just be a "kid with a few problems" rather than "bad". Just my 2 cents:sheepish: [/QUOTE]
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