Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
daughter-12 raging, destructive behavior ... help!
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="myfirstandlast" data-source="post: 119252" data-attributes="member: 3420"><p>Today is good. He was on the computer for too long, and claimed he didn't hear me say to get off, so he has some extra chores to do today.</p><p></p><p>That is one learned thing: if I take away computer, I get nothing accomplished. If I make him "pay" for his extra time with extra chores, I win!! LOL</p><p></p><p>We sat and talked about what was upsetting him about not going to his grandma's every Wednesday. His point of view is: NO change. He doesn't like routine changes, at all. My point of view is: three kids, growing up, tons of after-school activities, and I'd like ONE night a week that I can come home from work and not leave again! Without any fuss, we agreed that on Fridays, he can be picked up from his after-school activity by grandma, and she can either bring him home that night, or I'll pick him up after work, so there is no extra trip for me. Win-win. Giving him a say in any changes ALWAYS works better. I should have known there would be a backlash, but some things I learned about grandma made me want her to just disappear. :/</p><p></p><p>I wrote her a long and pretty harsh letter, and I'm bringing it to my IC appointment this week. I bet at least 75% of it should be thrown out, but it was good to get it off my chest.</p><p></p><p>We have grief counseling groups tonight. I talked with each child separately, and we are going to continue until at least the anniversary of his death, which was in early September. Then we'll decide whether we need to continue through the fall or longer.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="myfirstandlast, post: 119252, member: 3420"] Today is good. He was on the computer for too long, and claimed he didn't hear me say to get off, so he has some extra chores to do today. That is one learned thing: if I take away computer, I get nothing accomplished. If I make him "pay" for his extra time with extra chores, I win!! LOL We sat and talked about what was upsetting him about not going to his grandma's every Wednesday. His point of view is: NO change. He doesn't like routine changes, at all. My point of view is: three kids, growing up, tons of after-school activities, and I'd like ONE night a week that I can come home from work and not leave again! Without any fuss, we agreed that on Fridays, he can be picked up from his after-school activity by grandma, and she can either bring him home that night, or I'll pick him up after work, so there is no extra trip for me. Win-win. Giving him a say in any changes ALWAYS works better. I should have known there would be a backlash, but some things I learned about grandma made me want her to just disappear. :/ I wrote her a long and pretty harsh letter, and I'm bringing it to my IC appointment this week. I bet at least 75% of it should be thrown out, but it was good to get it off my chest. We have grief counseling groups tonight. I talked with each child separately, and we are going to continue until at least the anniversary of his death, which was in early September. Then we'll decide whether we need to continue through the fall or longer. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
daughter-12 raging, destructive behavior ... help!
Top