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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 757124" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi ChickPea</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry for all of this. Let me tell you what is running through my mind. Everybody else pretty much summed up the basics.I think you're at a choice point here.</p><p></p><p>She has been pushing for more unrestricted access to the house and to the baby. And yet this? How is this in any way compatible with greater proximity to him? It's not.</p><p>Then there's how she is affecting you. How destabilizing she is. How she is unaware, and ups the ante, blames you for everything. She not only creates chaos and confusion everywhere she goes. She blames you for having caused it. If this isn't gaslighting I don't know what is. It's like Dante's inferno, with so many levels of Hell. Except with her, you have to experience all of the levels at once.</p><p></p><p>I guess what I am suggesting you see is that this is all too much. It's not only that it feels too much. It feels too much because it is too much. You're her mother. Of course you would react when she's in drunken, suicidal car crashes. Of course there would be fear and helplessness, and even hopelessness. She not only exposes you to her never ending craziness, she blames you for it. And she punishes you with it.</p><p></p><p>I see this as the universe asking you to make a decision about boundaries. How much more of this can you take? What next will she expose you to? And when you're beaten down, how can the baby not sense it? Let alone the whole family. </p><p></p><p>I don't know Chickpea. I think it feels too much because it is. I'm sorry, ChickPea.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 757124, member: 18958"] Hi ChickPea I am so sorry for all of this. Let me tell you what is running through my mind. Everybody else pretty much summed up the basics.I think you're at a choice point here. She has been pushing for more unrestricted access to the house and to the baby. And yet this? How is this in any way compatible with greater proximity to him? It's not. Then there's how she is affecting you. How destabilizing she is. How she is unaware, and ups the ante, blames you for everything. She not only creates chaos and confusion everywhere she goes. She blames you for having caused it. If this isn't gaslighting I don't know what is. It's like Dante's inferno, with so many levels of Hell. Except with her, you have to experience all of the levels at once. I guess what I am suggesting you see is that this is all too much. It's not only that it feels too much. It feels too much because it is too much. You're her mother. Of course you would react when she's in drunken, suicidal car crashes. Of course there would be fear and helplessness, and even hopelessness. She not only exposes you to her never ending craziness, she blames you for it. And she punishes you with it. I see this as the universe asking you to make a decision about boundaries. How much more of this can you take? What next will she expose you to? And when you're beaten down, how can the baby not sense it? Let alone the whole family. I don't know Chickpea. I think it feels too much because it is. I'm sorry, ChickPea. [/QUOTE]
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