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<blockquote data-quote="JMom" data-source="post: 757158" data-attributes="member: 19892"><p>Ho ChickPea,</p><p></p><p>I'm thankful that you are here. I think court is a wonderful idea. I would say if you are struggling with the decision, turn your focus onto the child, who doesn't have a voice. Be that voice, your daughter is grown and capable of recovery if that is what she chooses. Even if you get custody, she can get sober, work and provide a place to live, food on the table and a stable life for her child, then fight for her son. This might be the turning point for her as well. Her son is young and you have the opportunity to provide the life he deserves rather than a lifetime of her poor parenting, leading to disappointment for him. These are just my opinions, I hope I am not over stepping.</p><p></p><p>I know you are mourning the life you want for her and for your son's actions, which is scary after all that you have endured. Hopefully, they will both be left to their own consequences, as not to delay the inevitable. They NEED consequences to learn from their mistakes. If you take on those consequences, it leaves them without the tools to fend for themselves-when you are no longer willing or able.</p><p></p><p>I will pray for your grandson to have a peaceful life, your daughter's recovery and your son's bonehead decision. I will also pray for you and hubby to take care of yourselves. I'm sorry that you are tired. Take it easy on yourself. You are certainly not a bad parent and I want you to stop telling yourself that. God has given us all free will and we have the ability to fix something that is 100% preventable. She can prevent this, she's just not there yet. This is a disease but a choice. She doesn't have to use ChickPea, she chooses this.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for providing for your grandson, he will certainly have a better chance with you than an addicted mother. Peace and love, and again, I apologize if I have overstepped.</p><p></p><p>JMOM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JMom, post: 757158, member: 19892"] Ho ChickPea, I'm thankful that you are here. I think court is a wonderful idea. I would say if you are struggling with the decision, turn your focus onto the child, who doesn't have a voice. Be that voice, your daughter is grown and capable of recovery if that is what she chooses. Even if you get custody, she can get sober, work and provide a place to live, food on the table and a stable life for her child, then fight for her son. This might be the turning point for her as well. Her son is young and you have the opportunity to provide the life he deserves rather than a lifetime of her poor parenting, leading to disappointment for him. These are just my opinions, I hope I am not over stepping. I know you are mourning the life you want for her and for your son's actions, which is scary after all that you have endured. Hopefully, they will both be left to their own consequences, as not to delay the inevitable. They NEED consequences to learn from their mistakes. If you take on those consequences, it leaves them without the tools to fend for themselves-when you are no longer willing or able. I will pray for your grandson to have a peaceful life, your daughter's recovery and your son's bonehead decision. I will also pray for you and hubby to take care of yourselves. I'm sorry that you are tired. Take it easy on yourself. You are certainly not a bad parent and I want you to stop telling yourself that. God has given us all free will and we have the ability to fix something that is 100% preventable. She can prevent this, she's just not there yet. This is a disease but a choice. She doesn't have to use ChickPea, she chooses this. Thank you for providing for your grandson, he will certainly have a better chance with you than an addicted mother. Peace and love, and again, I apologize if I have overstepped. JMOM [/QUOTE]
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