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Daughter Homeless Again...I Cant Help Her...Feeling Guilty.
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<blockquote data-quote="mommaRN" data-source="post: 674048" data-attributes="member: 19836"><p>My Daughter is 27 years old. She has been bouncing from couch to couch for years with some breaks when she found a steady boyfriend here and there. About 3 years ago She became angry at me due to me asking her not to discuss my business with other family members I was no longer in contact with. She became enraged with me at this request becoming verbally abusive. She called me horrible names, stating that I was "dead to her" and that I was to never to contact her again. </p><p></p><p> I kept tabs on her through her sister and through social media to make sure she was OK but respected her wishes hoping that when she was done being angry she would come around. at the beginning of this summer she contacted me and told me that she wanted to work on things and get back to the way things were. We used to be close despite her having a difficult time during her teenage years; ie running away, stealing cars, escaping juvenile detention, breaking into neighbors houses ect. </p><p></p><p> I decided to try to put things in the past and start fresh. She called me up shortly after and asked me if there was any work I had for her ( I have a second property) so that she could earn some money. I told her that I had some yard work that could be done. In the past I paid her way more than what I would have paid anyone else because I knew she needed the money to pay fines, buy food, ect. she said great we agreed on a time to meet and hung up. </p><p></p><p> I showed up waited and no daughter...waited another hour...no daughter. I called her for the 5th time she finally answered and started to scream the worst things on the phone to me. blaming me for every bad decision she has made in the last 3 years. telling me how bad of a mother I as and that she hated me, acting as if I was the one that asked her to do the work. Needless to say I was shocked. I hung up the phone and cried. </p><p></p><p> Fast forward to two weeks ago. She is now texting me stating that her step brother is kicking her out and that she is going to be homeless and that since I am her mother I HAVE to help her. Her sister wont help her because when she was staying there she stole money from her. Her other sister wont let her stay with her because she stole her promise ring from her. Frankly, I'm at my wits end and I don't want her in my house. I don't trust her. I feel guilty because its winter. I feel guilty because its my daughter. I just don't have it in me. </p><p>when people ask me if I'm going to help her and i say no they look at me like I'm a monster. Sorry if this is long winded. It just makes me mad, she is capable of working and being productive but she chooses not to. I dont know what to do... any words of wisdom?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mommaRN, post: 674048, member: 19836"] My Daughter is 27 years old. She has been bouncing from couch to couch for years with some breaks when she found a steady boyfriend here and there. About 3 years ago She became angry at me due to me asking her not to discuss my business with other family members I was no longer in contact with. She became enraged with me at this request becoming verbally abusive. She called me horrible names, stating that I was "dead to her" and that I was to never to contact her again. I kept tabs on her through her sister and through social media to make sure she was OK but respected her wishes hoping that when she was done being angry she would come around. at the beginning of this summer she contacted me and told me that she wanted to work on things and get back to the way things were. We used to be close despite her having a difficult time during her teenage years; ie running away, stealing cars, escaping juvenile detention, breaking into neighbors houses ect. I decided to try to put things in the past and start fresh. She called me up shortly after and asked me if there was any work I had for her ( I have a second property) so that she could earn some money. I told her that I had some yard work that could be done. In the past I paid her way more than what I would have paid anyone else because I knew she needed the money to pay fines, buy food, ect. she said great we agreed on a time to meet and hung up. I showed up waited and no daughter...waited another hour...no daughter. I called her for the 5th time she finally answered and started to scream the worst things on the phone to me. blaming me for every bad decision she has made in the last 3 years. telling me how bad of a mother I as and that she hated me, acting as if I was the one that asked her to do the work. Needless to say I was shocked. I hung up the phone and cried. Fast forward to two weeks ago. She is now texting me stating that her step brother is kicking her out and that she is going to be homeless and that since I am her mother I HAVE to help her. Her sister wont help her because when she was staying there she stole money from her. Her other sister wont let her stay with her because she stole her promise ring from her. Frankly, I'm at my wits end and I don't want her in my house. I don't trust her. I feel guilty because its winter. I feel guilty because its my daughter. I just don't have it in me. when people ask me if I'm going to help her and i say no they look at me like I'm a monster. Sorry if this is long winded. It just makes me mad, she is capable of working and being productive but she chooses not to. I dont know what to do... any words of wisdom? [/QUOTE]
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