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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 735214" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p style="margin-left: 20px">I'm so sorry Wish. I would be petrified too. I've been scared like that when my daughter was homeless, it is the worst kind of powerlessness and lack of control. </p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px">When my daughter was in the throes of poor choices which put her in harms way.....when I was out of control and scared....I began creating a "tool box" of various techniques that supported my sanity & well being and offered me ways of moving thru the fear and regaining my balance so that the fear did not overtake me. </p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px">Do whatever you can to switch your brain out of that fear place...when we are powerless and so frightened, our brains get stuck in that fear...take some kind of action when that happens...writing down your fears here was an excellent choice....</p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px">......something that helped me was to place my daughter in the hands of a Higher Power....Praying helped me....if it's possible, if you can take a walk for about 10-15 minutes, statistically, that shifts the brain. Meditation also helps to calm the fear down as well, you can check on YOUTUBE for guided meditations that are specifically for worry/fear/overwhelm. </p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px">I realized that I might be in this situation for awhile, so I began strengthening my Self with a strong focus on my own needs and desires......so that I would feel centered and learn how to respond differently.....therapy helped a lot to address my fears.....changing my diet and developing an exercise program helped immeasurably......meditation......pursuing a spiritual path and practicing acceptance, which is so difficult what our kids are involved. </p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px">Keep posting Wish....put together your own "toolbox" so that when the fear emerges, you have options to bring you back to balance. Your daughter is going to do what she is going to do, <em>AND</em> you can choose to take excellent care of yourself......and as you do, you will be able to be more present......more available to stay grounded in your strength to be able to be available for yourself and your daughter.</p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px">Hang in there Wish. We're here for you. You're not alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 735214, member: 13542"] [INDENT]I'm so sorry Wish. I would be petrified too. I've been scared like that when my daughter was homeless, it is the worst kind of powerlessness and lack of control. When my daughter was in the throes of poor choices which put her in harms way.....when I was out of control and scared....I began creating a "tool box" of various techniques that supported my sanity & well being and offered me ways of moving thru the fear and regaining my balance so that the fear did not overtake me. Do whatever you can to switch your brain out of that fear place...when we are powerless and so frightened, our brains get stuck in that fear...take some kind of action when that happens...writing down your fears here was an excellent choice.... ......something that helped me was to place my daughter in the hands of a Higher Power....Praying helped me....if it's possible, if you can take a walk for about 10-15 minutes, statistically, that shifts the brain. Meditation also helps to calm the fear down as well, you can check on YOUTUBE for guided meditations that are specifically for worry/fear/overwhelm. I realized that I might be in this situation for awhile, so I began strengthening my Self with a strong focus on my own needs and desires......so that I would feel centered and learn how to respond differently.....therapy helped a lot to address my fears.....changing my diet and developing an exercise program helped immeasurably......meditation......pursuing a spiritual path and practicing acceptance, which is so difficult what our kids are involved. Keep posting Wish....put together your own "toolbox" so that when the fear emerges, you have options to bring you back to balance. Your daughter is going to do what she is going to do, [I]AND[/I] you can choose to take excellent care of yourself......and as you do, you will be able to be more present......more available to stay grounded in your strength to be able to be available for yourself and your daughter. Hang in there Wish. We're here for you. You're not alone.[/INDENT] [/QUOTE]
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