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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 749212" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi JPG I don’t think any of us are “fixed” with our wayward beloveds issues. It is a constant retraining, as recoveringenablers name suggests. I do believe that we are worth the effort to keep self care in check, seek ways to switch focus and strengthen ourselves for whatever comes next. It is a process with steps and backslides, which we need to forgive ourselves for and move forward with the lesson learned.</p><p>I have stopped myself from trying to prove my love to my two, realizing that dance makes me easy prey in their game. I took a good long look at the craziness we went through and saw myself as their “mark”. They would tug and tug at my heartstrings until dazed, hurt and confused, I didn’t know which way was up. Addiction thrives on this desperate state in loved ones, we are easily manipulated when we live with heavy hearts. Yes, I am saddened by my twos lifestyles, eldest yet again involved with an abusive thug, Tornado posting gangsta selfies on Instagram, face wrapped in a bandanna, quotes bragging about being on the run. Huh. It’s awful, but there is absolutely nothing I can do to stop the train wreck.</p><p> Oh boy, do we all have good days and bad. Keep up the good work and know that it is a process. There is no one way. The grief will ebb and flow. I try not to write the end of the story, where there is life, there is hope. It is crucial for us to find ways to bring peace and joy to our lives. I truly believe that we are the best examples for our wayward adult kids by modeling self care.</p><p>Hugs to you</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 749212, member: 19522"] Hi JPG I don’t think any of us are “fixed” with our wayward beloveds issues. It is a constant retraining, as recoveringenablers name suggests. I do believe that we are worth the effort to keep self care in check, seek ways to switch focus and strengthen ourselves for whatever comes next. It is a process with steps and backslides, which we need to forgive ourselves for and move forward with the lesson learned. I have stopped myself from trying to prove my love to my two, realizing that dance makes me easy prey in their game. I took a good long look at the craziness we went through and saw myself as their “mark”. They would tug and tug at my heartstrings until dazed, hurt and confused, I didn’t know which way was up. Addiction thrives on this desperate state in loved ones, we are easily manipulated when we live with heavy hearts. Yes, I am saddened by my twos lifestyles, eldest yet again involved with an abusive thug, Tornado posting gangsta selfies on Instagram, face wrapped in a bandanna, quotes bragging about being on the run. Huh. It’s awful, but there is absolutely nothing I can do to stop the train wreck. Oh boy, do we all have good days and bad. Keep up the good work and know that it is a process. There is no one way. The grief will ebb and flow. I try not to write the end of the story, where there is life, there is hope. It is crucial for us to find ways to bring peace and joy to our lives. I truly believe that we are the best examples for our wayward adult kids by modeling self care. Hugs to you Leafy [/QUOTE]
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