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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 668373" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>She was in her right mind, unless she is psychotic. She was for some reason trying to manipulate you into doing something that you refused to do. Maybe you set a boundary. At any rate, it is up to you, b ut if it were me I would not apologize for what SHE did. I used to apologize all the time for things I didn't do and I thought it would make people love me...members of my family who thought little of me and treated me badly. It didn't change one thing to apologize. Just made me look weak and they treated me even worse. Now I don't talk to them anymore. You don't have to do that, but if your daughter sees you as weak, she will treat you even worse.</p><p></p><p>You are a valuable, important human being whom God (since you believe in Him) put on this earth. You do not deserve to have to listen to abuse and next time your daughter starts up, maybe disconnect the call or leave the house. You can say calmly, "I will speak to you when you have calmed and are respectful." Then do it. </p><p></p><p>I had to do this with one of my adult children. It helped tremendously. I can't say it will work for your daughter, but if you let her disrespect you like that...well, I'd hate for you to felt guilted and useless like I did just because I listened to nonesense from disturbed people in my family. I hope you can empower yourself and do this.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and more hugs!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 668373, member: 1550"] She was in her right mind, unless she is psychotic. She was for some reason trying to manipulate you into doing something that you refused to do. Maybe you set a boundary. At any rate, it is up to you, b ut if it were me I would not apologize for what SHE did. I used to apologize all the time for things I didn't do and I thought it would make people love me...members of my family who thought little of me and treated me badly. It didn't change one thing to apologize. Just made me look weak and they treated me even worse. Now I don't talk to them anymore. You don't have to do that, but if your daughter sees you as weak, she will treat you even worse. You are a valuable, important human being whom God (since you believe in Him) put on this earth. You do not deserve to have to listen to abuse and next time your daughter starts up, maybe disconnect the call or leave the house. You can say calmly, "I will speak to you when you have calmed and are respectful." Then do it. I had to do this with one of my adult children. It helped tremendously. I can't say it will work for your daughter, but if you let her disrespect you like that...well, I'd hate for you to felt guilted and useless like I did just because I listened to nonesense from disturbed people in my family. I hope you can empower yourself and do this. Hugs and more hugs!! [/QUOTE]
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