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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 668429" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>I do not think she is psychotic. I do not know if her brain is damaged from dabbling with drugs. Not trying to make excuses for this unacceptable behavior, it is just so puzzling. I have never seen her act to this degree of irrationality?</p><p></p><p></p><p>Heck no, not going to apologize!</p><p></p><p></p><p>I, too have the over apologizing gene. Always concerned for how the other person felt. I agree with you that when we are over pleasing and apologizing without reason, it sets us up for victimization.</p><p>I want to stop that, but still maintain kindness, not to be misrepresented as weakness.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Thank you for these words. I am starting to think that she has done me a favor by this 'in your face" tirade. It shocked me and spun me around, it was an absolute eruption of venomous anger. Completely out of control. I have seen bits and pieces of this, but this was the whole shebang. Big wake up call for me. The veritable last straw.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Big hugs back at you!</p><p>I have mulled over my friends suggestion to "text words of affirmation" "she's your daughter and a daughter needs her mother". Then followed my patterned response, of trying to be the better person, maybe I should reach out as a mother -yadayadayada. I did think for a bit on it, it is what instigated my post.</p><p></p><p>The truth is, we have not had a mother daughter relationship in a long time. Not to the degree of her explosion, but not a closeness, a lack of appreciation, she blamed her trials on me. The disrespect was woven in here and there, but not so blatant in your face, all out to get you and hurt you stuff.</p><p></p><p>So, I will not be texting any time soon. I need time to recover and build myself up. I need to recharge my battery and get my mojo back. I need to analyze stuff without being <em>consumed </em>by it.</p><p></p><p>Yes, I need to empower myself to stand up and show by my actions "Thats it. Enough!"</p><p></p><p>Thank you so much for your words of wisdom and encouragement.</p><p></p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 668429, member: 19522"] I do not think she is psychotic. I do not know if her brain is damaged from dabbling with drugs. Not trying to make excuses for this unacceptable behavior, it is just so puzzling. I have never seen her act to this degree of irrationality? Heck no, not going to apologize! I, too have the over apologizing gene. Always concerned for how the other person felt. I agree with you that when we are over pleasing and apologizing without reason, it sets us up for victimization. I want to stop that, but still maintain kindness, not to be misrepresented as weakness. Thank you for these words. I am starting to think that she has done me a favor by this 'in your face" tirade. It shocked me and spun me around, it was an absolute eruption of venomous anger. Completely out of control. I have seen bits and pieces of this, but this was the whole shebang. Big wake up call for me. The veritable last straw. Big hugs back at you! I have mulled over my friends suggestion to "text words of affirmation" "she's your daughter and a daughter needs her mother". Then followed my patterned response, of trying to be the better person, maybe I should reach out as a mother -yadayadayada. I did think for a bit on it, it is what instigated my post. The truth is, we have not had a mother daughter relationship in a long time. Not to the degree of her explosion, but not a closeness, a lack of appreciation, she blamed her trials on me. The disrespect was woven in here and there, but not so blatant in your face, all out to get you and hurt you stuff. So, I will not be texting any time soon. I need time to recover and build myself up. I need to recharge my battery and get my mojo back. I need to analyze stuff without being [I]consumed [/I]by it. Yes, I need to empower myself to stand up and show by my actions "Thats it. Enough!" Thank you so much for your words of wisdom and encouragement. Leafy [/QUOTE]
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