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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 668491" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi New Leaf</p><p></p><p>I know the pain of not knowing where they are and aching for them. Wanting to hear their voice. Only that.</p><p></p><p>Today my son called me to tell me he was kicked out as a patient in the University Liver Clinic. I was devastated. I felt, I cannot bear more. My SO reminded me that it is I who suffer, that it is I who cannot bear it when I am not in contact with my son. Agony for me seems to be a better alternative than absence.</p><p></p><p>But then other times, when I am rational, I see that for so long I have played two parts in the relationship, and he takes responsibility for neither. What kind of a person am I who hangs on no matter what, even with my child; who has had no bottom line?</p><p></p><p>I feel like the others that we all need to have a bottom line and that to abuse us, and disrespect is a form of abuse, is not OK. </p><p></p><p>But we are their parents. A card, the perfect card, like Cedar suggests, might be the right thing. Maybe just a picture. And love. Whether or not there is contact, there is love. And love does not negate her responsibility for her words and conduct. I like that idea.</p><p></p><p>But believe it. You are not alone. So many of us, most, have been where you are. Try your very best to take care of yourself.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 668491, member: 18958"] Hi New Leaf I know the pain of not knowing where they are and aching for them. Wanting to hear their voice. Only that. Today my son called me to tell me he was kicked out as a patient in the University Liver Clinic. I was devastated. I felt, I cannot bear more. My SO reminded me that it is I who suffer, that it is I who cannot bear it when I am not in contact with my son. Agony for me seems to be a better alternative than absence. But then other times, when I am rational, I see that for so long I have played two parts in the relationship, and he takes responsibility for neither. What kind of a person am I who hangs on no matter what, even with my child; who has had no bottom line? I feel like the others that we all need to have a bottom line and that to abuse us, and disrespect is a form of abuse, is not OK. But we are their parents. A card, the perfect card, like Cedar suggests, might be the right thing. Maybe just a picture. And love. Whether or not there is contact, there is love. And love does not negate her responsibility for her words and conduct. I like that idea. But believe it. You are not alone. So many of us, most, have been where you are. Try your very best to take care of yourself. COPA [/QUOTE]
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