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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 630994" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>D&C, welcome. </p><p></p><p>This is a difficult and devastating path we are on. Your daughter is an addict, so all bets for "normal" behavior are off, she has been taken over by addiction. So, YOU will have to change and get the support you require and the tools you will need to change. You are no longer dealing with your daughter, you are dealing with addiction, with an addict, that's a whole different ball game.</p><p></p><p>You may want to read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post here. You may also want to read the book, Codependent no more by Melodie Beattie. They've been helpful to us.</p><p></p><p>The hardest thing any of us face with our adult children is to see the truth of who they have become and begin to detach from that and accept it. It is a huge problem and it takes a lot of support to make that shift in our thinking. But, it can be done. </p><p></p><p>If you continue getting the support you need, set the strong boundaries, take care of YOU first and begin the process of detaching, you will begin to feel a lot better.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you're here. Keep posting, it helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 630994, member: 13542"] D&C, welcome. This is a difficult and devastating path we are on. Your daughter is an addict, so all bets for "normal" behavior are off, she has been taken over by addiction. So, YOU will have to change and get the support you require and the tools you will need to change. You are no longer dealing with your daughter, you are dealing with addiction, with an addict, that's a whole different ball game. You may want to read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post here. You may also want to read the book, Codependent no more by Melodie Beattie. They've been helpful to us. The hardest thing any of us face with our adult children is to see the truth of who they have become and begin to detach from that and accept it. It is a huge problem and it takes a lot of support to make that shift in our thinking. But, it can be done. If you continue getting the support you need, set the strong boundaries, take care of YOU first and begin the process of detaching, you will begin to feel a lot better. I'm glad you're here. Keep posting, it helps. [/QUOTE]
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