Welcome. I am a single parent with 6 kids who all have different medical conditions. My biggest challenge to date is the 9yr old. He determines how my day goes. He usually on a good day has only three outbursts, but normally it seems like its every 20-30 minutes. It is very difficult trying to address the situation without outside help.
My ex doesnt believe theres anything wrong as he is just all boy. They used to visit him and he would say he never had one problem with any of them...funny as the kids get older they tell you everything. My ex is in major denial but that never stopped me from getting my kids help.
My advice is ask questions here,talk to your dr and the school. Also check with your health insurance to see who you need to go to for the neuropsychologist evaluation. My kids havent had one but I am pushing for it to be done. Document in a journal when his mood and behavior changes. If you can pinpoint the triggers write those down to. This will help the school and dr's form a treatment plan.
I was not okay putting my kids on medication at all. I waited until my son was a safety risk to himself and others at school. I waited to long I think now that I see what a difference it makes. I think all parents hesitate to medicate their kids but it really can improve their daily activities.
Counseling is really good to. These kids get made fun of alot. They also feel and know they are different from other kids. I have learned a bunch about my kids through counseling. It might help dad to understand more of your treatment options as well.
My 9yr old also has anxiety so he sleeps on my lap all night in the rocking chair. We have everyone on a strict schedule which helps more than anything. I plan everything around our schedule. No phone calls or visitors from 4:30-8:00. We eat at 5:30 and they are in bed at 8pm. We get up at 5:30. I find that if I serve dinner even 10 minutes late it throws everthing off.
I hope I have helped some. Even if you cant use any of my advice please just know there are so many of us out their that are frustrated and feel like crying sometimes. I will keep your family in our prayers.
