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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 306995" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>I agree with- klmno - some family members just don't get it. I don't think it's intentional, it just that unless you live it 24/7, some folks cannot even begin to comprehend.</p><p> </p><p>When my difficult child was 5, 6, 7, my mom thought he should go to live with- her, that she and her hubby would be able to "fix" him. Tempting as the thought was <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> , there was no way I would do that to difficult child. And honestly? I'm not sure even if she had lived with- him for an extended period of time that she really would have changed her tune, but that probably has more to do with- the fact that my mother and I are polar opposites and have zero common ground anyway. </p><p> </p><p>Pretty much, we've just don't talk about our difficult child to extended family. When they ask how he is, our answer is "Oh, you know... he's working on things" and that's it. They really don't want or need to know the truth. </p><p> </p><p>husband and I have been dealing our special needs kids for over 20 years now - most of those years, there has been one crisis after another after another. Throw in the "normal" needs of our younger 2 and... we've forgotten birthdays, holidays, anniversaries in the extended family. We're trying like crazy to hold it together, and if someone gets bent out of shape because I didn't send a card or call in the midst of the latest crisis... oh well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 306995, member: 8"] I agree with- klmno - some family members just don't get it. I don't think it's intentional, it just that unless you live it 24/7, some folks cannot even begin to comprehend. When my difficult child was 5, 6, 7, my mom thought he should go to live with- her, that she and her hubby would be able to "fix" him. Tempting as the thought was ;) , there was no way I would do that to difficult child. And honestly? I'm not sure even if she had lived with- him for an extended period of time that she really would have changed her tune, but that probably has more to do with- the fact that my mother and I are polar opposites and have zero common ground anyway. Pretty much, we've just don't talk about our difficult child to extended family. When they ask how he is, our answer is "Oh, you know... he's working on things" and that's it. They really don't want or need to know the truth. husband and I have been dealing our special needs kids for over 20 years now - most of those years, there has been one crisis after another after another. Throw in the "normal" needs of our younger 2 and... we've forgotten birthdays, holidays, anniversaries in the extended family. We're trying like crazy to hold it together, and if someone gets bent out of shape because I didn't send a card or call in the midst of the latest crisis... oh well. [/QUOTE]
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