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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 458574" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Nomad, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Even though you were estranged a loss of a parent brings up so many painful emotions. I have had my issues with my dad for years. He is an alcoholic who caused a great deal of turmoil in our home growing up and there was a period of years when I had no contact with him at all. The last fifteen years we reconciled however it has not been without difficult times. He has always enjoyed pitting his kids against each other and he was sucessful in doing that between my sister and I last year. That relationship is severed and probably never will be repaired. But I am more concerned about my dad. He is almost 92 and in poor health. He has surgery last month and I was very uncomfortable in the hospital with my sister. He has to have more surgery next month and I' not sure what to do. I feel awful that this last year has beenso strained but it's too late to fix that. I am afraid that if I don't get back on some even ground I will regret it. </p><p></p><p>I think that we always look to our parents for approval even though we tell oursleves we don't need it. And when that approval is not given we struggle with the left over emotions.</p><p></p><p>Again I am sorry for your loss and hope that in time you are at peace with yourself.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 458574, member: 59"] Nomad, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Even though you were estranged a loss of a parent brings up so many painful emotions. I have had my issues with my dad for years. He is an alcoholic who caused a great deal of turmoil in our home growing up and there was a period of years when I had no contact with him at all. The last fifteen years we reconciled however it has not been without difficult times. He has always enjoyed pitting his kids against each other and he was sucessful in doing that between my sister and I last year. That relationship is severed and probably never will be repaired. But I am more concerned about my dad. He is almost 92 and in poor health. He has surgery last month and I was very uncomfortable in the hospital with my sister. He has to have more surgery next month and I' not sure what to do. I feel awful that this last year has beenso strained but it's too late to fix that. I am afraid that if I don't get back on some even ground I will regret it. I think that we always look to our parents for approval even though we tell oursleves we don't need it. And when that approval is not given we struggle with the left over emotions. Again I am sorry for your loss and hope that in time you are at peace with yourself. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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