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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 458794" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>Nomad, I am sorry for your loss, and do understand your grief. My BFF dealt with very similar emotions with her mother.</p><p></p><p>Reality is, he gave you what he could. You were LOVED by this man. He was incapable of showing it in a lasting and meaningful way, but he did love you.</p><p></p><p>We all want difficult children to wake up one day and "see the light", and some do, but sadly many do not. For whatever reason your father was the latter, even up to his last breath. BUT despite his actions, he did LOVE you, in his own difficult child kind of way. in my opinion it is not any less valid.</p><p></p><p>If he had given you more, explained himself, made excuses. It would have left you with more questions, more wants, more regrets.</p><p></p><p>More than anything else, I think you are mourning the loss of HOPE. The HOPE that if he were alive there was even the slightest chance of a positive relationship. Now that hope is gone forever and you need to accept and move on. A difficult task indeed. </p><p></p><p>Remember always that he was a difficult child and as such, was <strong>incapable </strong>of a "normal" relationship, but also know that deep down somewhere, despite not being able to, he wanted it as well. He told you this himself - he told you he LOVED you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 458794, member: 11965"] Nomad, I am sorry for your loss, and do understand your grief. My BFF dealt with very similar emotions with her mother. Reality is, he gave you what he could. You were LOVED by this man. He was incapable of showing it in a lasting and meaningful way, but he did love you. We all want difficult children to wake up one day and "see the light", and some do, but sadly many do not. For whatever reason your father was the latter, even up to his last breath. BUT despite his actions, he did LOVE you, in his own difficult child kind of way. in my opinion it is not any less valid. If he had given you more, explained himself, made excuses. It would have left you with more questions, more wants, more regrets. More than anything else, I think you are mourning the loss of HOPE. The HOPE that if he were alive there was even the slightest chance of a positive relationship. Now that hope is gone forever and you need to accept and move on. A difficult task indeed. Remember always that he was a difficult child and as such, was [B]incapable [/B]of a "normal" relationship, but also know that deep down somewhere, despite not being able to, he wanted it as well. He told you this himself - he told you he LOVED you. [/QUOTE]
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