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<blockquote data-quote="eekysign" data-source="post: 242693" data-attributes="member: 6479"><p>Toughie. I've got a friend serving a 7 year sentence--good friend, too, this kid was like my little brother growing up. Had to be---his dad was AWOL and his mom was a total hippie crackpot, who never should have been allowed sole custody with-o supports in place. I fed him, I took care of his cuts and bruises, I drove him out of his rural home on the weekends....from the time I was 15-16 on.</p><p></p><p>He literally grew up feral. He was a SWEET kid, but mentally never healthy. Never mean, or intentionally cruel, never violent, but almost universally inappropriate, and borderline psychopathic. He had never, ever learned how to connect to other human beings, and when he did, it was usually not "normal". I was one of a handful of non-internet-based friends he had. He's now in prison, for basically not knowing how to behave appropriately in society. Don't wanna go into it any more than that. </p><p></p><p>I just can't support any criminal justice system that can look at my friend, or any of our difficult children, and think, "Oh, they KNEW what they were doing, and knew it was wrong. So jail for them!". My friend may know wrong from right, but he doesn't CARE....especially when feeling strong emotions. Wrong and right just aren't internalized for a lot of our difficult children.....when they get tired, or worked up, or ANYthing goes awry, wrong and right go out the window. It takes a lot of psychiatric rehab, medications, and HOPE to get that changed, if it ever does. I think my friend needs years of psychiatric hospital intensive counseling....not prison. But I don't see that happening. Our country doesn't like the taste of "helping bad people"---even if it's to everyone's benefit that they be helped.</p><p></p><p>Lord knows, I'd rather a violent ex-con have a decent job and therapy and support when s/he gets out of prison, rather than nothing (AND have spent more time in there with the 85% sentence fulfillment). 'Cause everyone needs something to live right FOR. Watching my stepbrother bounce between state psychiatric hospital and the local police station 'cause they'd just release him every time, to no REAL support structure, taught me that! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Just my two cents.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="eekysign, post: 242693, member: 6479"] Toughie. I've got a friend serving a 7 year sentence--good friend, too, this kid was like my little brother growing up. Had to be---his dad was AWOL and his mom was a total hippie crackpot, who never should have been allowed sole custody with-o supports in place. I fed him, I took care of his cuts and bruises, I drove him out of his rural home on the weekends....from the time I was 15-16 on. He literally grew up feral. He was a SWEET kid, but mentally never healthy. Never mean, or intentionally cruel, never violent, but almost universally inappropriate, and borderline psychopathic. He had never, ever learned how to connect to other human beings, and when he did, it was usually not "normal". I was one of a handful of non-internet-based friends he had. He's now in prison, for basically not knowing how to behave appropriately in society. Don't wanna go into it any more than that. I just can't support any criminal justice system that can look at my friend, or any of our difficult children, and think, "Oh, they KNEW what they were doing, and knew it was wrong. So jail for them!". My friend may know wrong from right, but he doesn't CARE....especially when feeling strong emotions. Wrong and right just aren't internalized for a lot of our difficult children.....when they get tired, or worked up, or ANYthing goes awry, wrong and right go out the window. It takes a lot of psychiatric rehab, medications, and HOPE to get that changed, if it ever does. I think my friend needs years of psychiatric hospital intensive counseling....not prison. But I don't see that happening. Our country doesn't like the taste of "helping bad people"---even if it's to everyone's benefit that they be helped. Lord knows, I'd rather a violent ex-con have a decent job and therapy and support when s/he gets out of prison, rather than nothing (AND have spent more time in there with the 85% sentence fulfillment). 'Cause everyone needs something to live right FOR. Watching my stepbrother bounce between state psychiatric hospital and the local police station 'cause they'd just release him every time, to no REAL support structure, taught me that! :) Just my two cents. [/QUOTE]
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