Here's the loophole I unsuccessfully tried but it's worth a shot.
Most elementary schools grade behavior. How are her report card behavior grades? Hmmmm flunking behavior? Well, if it's important enough to send a grade home, then it's important enough to set up an IEP.
In the evaluation request, specifically ask for social/emotional evaluations.
Have you tried finding an advocate? He or she WILL be able to get the whole process moving. In my school district, the public advocates are well known, and the second one is invited to an IEP meeting (even if they don't show) staff tone changes immediately. They know the parent has access to ALL the right and legal information and stop messing around.
