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First, it is time to quit proscrastinating.  Get thee to your doctor and get some help for the depression.  Being angry at everyone, especially yourself, is not helping your situation.


Right now, your son is not your son -- he is a teenager possessed by drugs.  His choices probably are not ones he would make if not using.  Forcing him into rehab probably wouldn't do much good.  He has to want to go.  The best you could do right now is get him into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and the odds of him staying there sound pretty slim.  Right now, he thinks he can make it with friends and the like.  Sooner or later, that will change -- his friends will have had enough of him living there and will kick him to the curb.  That's when his trip to his rock bottom will begin.  Until then, there really isn't much you can do.


Forcing him home right now doesn't sound like it would really help anyone -- he'd just run the first chance he got.


You're not giving up on him right now.  Hopefully, you're waiting for him to want to change, to get his life and family back.


Your husband's letter had me in tears.  He loves his family so much.  He wants so much for all of you but knows that he can't help his son right now.  You know he will be there when your son finally asks for help.  That's not giving up, that's being realistic for this situation.


I wish there were easy answers for you, but there aren't.  I suppose you could call someone and see what your options are in getting him home but I honestly don't think they would do much good.  He would just keep running.  I'm sorry.


((((((NOLA)))))


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