I totally agree that you've gotten great advice on detachment. Just remember that it doesn't mean you don't love, but rather that you love enough to help set them free. If we're lucky, they learn from their mistakes.
The one thing I want to warn you about is over protecting. I was that way when my little one was young. I taught her things like cooking and crafts but I protected her from almost everything else.
She didn't have to learn how to manage money, mom took care of that. Someone was bullying her? She didn't have to learn how to defend herself, mom would stop the bully one way or another. This was a HUGE disservice to my child. Instead of learning these life lessons when she was younger, she is now having to learn them as a young woman. So, do be careful that you don't make my mistake and protect your children too much. Kids need to learn that hurting is part of life and they need to learn to make their own decisions and choices.
