I agree! Cedar, you not only constantly seek the higher path, you have complete faith that others will want to do so also. Your faith never wavers. When I picture you in a Christmas movie, you are not Bad Santa. You are Bill Murray's lost and found true love in Scrooged, the one who runs the homeless shelter and says, "The good thing about regret is that it's never too late! You can change! I see that every day!"
I totally agree, Cedar. I have not a single doubt that you have great and sincere and unwavering belief in your children. You are the one who has taught me that, to make that clear to our children, that no matter what, we hold that seed of faith that one day they will find their way.
But that doesn't mean we step back into doing the same kinds of things we have done for them before, knowing in our heart of hearts that they haven't changed, and that therefore in all likelihood the outcome won't be any different this time. Giving/selling him the house wouldn't be fighting for him, in my opinion. It would be acquiescing to his manipulation, maybe even making it a little easier for him to continue or even escalate his drug use, and making it much more complicated than just spending what you need to send him on his way next time.
